A Compendium Comprised of 100 Notable LGBTQ+ Songs | Playlist 🎧

1. Myylo, “Skinny Boys”

I’m a Nice Boy Too (EP) • Myylo • 2020

“My music is pretty preoccupied with boys and love.” That’s how Nashville-based, LGBTQ pop artist Myylo described his music when interviewed by The Musical Hype (July 2019). Sure, if you’ve been following this awesome musician who “sits at the nexus point of folk lyricism, pop production, and boyish relatability,” you’re well aware of just how terrific his songs about boys are. On “Skinny Boys” (I’m a Nice Boy Too (EP)), one of his many awesome singles, finds the singer/songwriter penning ‘a body positivity anthem for boys everywhere.’ “‘Skinny Boys’ is a body positivity anthem made for the boys who don’t have and don’t need to have Thor’s abs, Bat Man’s pecs, or Aquaman’s shoulders to love themselves.” This is encouragement and empowerment for boys lacking that perfect body.  So many times, we hear about body positivity from a feminine perspective, but with men it’s a gray area.

Throughout the verses, Myylo depicts the feelings of inferiority that many men have regarding their bodies, but don’t readily admit.  He allows himself to be vulnerable, something that’s relatable to any man who experiences the same issues.  The chorus is the crowning achievement, where the urban-pop sound really pops, with a sick trap beat, hella catchy lyrics, and stellar stacked harmonies:

“Give it up for the skinny boys
Give it up for the chunky boys
‘Cause we’re gonna have so much fun
Not give a fuck about anyone…
Never let ‘em steal your joy, joy, joy.”

What he’s saying is true – why should anybody “give a fuck about what anyone” thinks about their body? Not only is “Skinny Boys” a surefire bop, it’s surefire bop with superb, empowering, and atoning songwriting. “Skinny Boys” previously appeared on various playlists: 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in August 2019 and, more recently, 11 Empowering Songs About Loving Yourself.

Also, check out: Body Positivity Affects Men Too

2. Ryan Beatty, “Flowers at the Door”

Dreaming of David • Boy in Jeans / Mad Love / Interscope • 2020

Ryan Beatty writes amazing songs about boys, period. Boy in Jeans was among my favorite albums of 2018 (several songs appear on this LGBTQ+ mega list), even though it didn’t get the attention it deserved.  Likewise, his sophomore album, Dreaming of David, has flown under the radar – bummer.  Nonetheless, that doesn’t hold back Beatty from delivering more bops, encompassing the LGBTQ+ experience.  Although the song at hand, “Flowers at the Door,” originally appeared on the playlist, 11 Interesting Songs Loosely Associated with the House, the record is less associated with the door of a house, than, say, the bedroom.  Here, Beatty artfully sings about sex without being profane.

Analyze the lyrics closely, and it’s clear that Ryan Beatty delivers a record that isn’t the least bit ‘innocent.’  Key lyrics from the first verse include the brilliant “Our heads connected, I got the message / You had your hands around my skull,” and “I look up to you when I’m below.”  Ponder it, and you’ll realize where Beatty is going.  The chorus extends upon the ‘happening,’ as he sensually asks, “Why don’t you turn me around?” And if you totally miss the sexual innuendo, perhaps the bridge sheds some light, again without being the least bit profane (“What’s so wrong with wanting more? / Rollin’ on the hardwood floor”). To reiterate, Beatty artfully sings about S-E-X.

3. Kesha, “BFF”

Ft. Wrabel

High Road • Kemosabe • 2020

Grammy-nominated pop artist Kesha brought ample spirit, energy (and f-bombs as well) on her colorful fourth studio album, High Road. After showing more maturity and versatility on her 2017 album, Rainbow (particularly songs like “Learn to Let Go” and “Praying”), Kesha makes it clear on High Road she’s no boring artist just because she’s matured. A personal favorite from High Road also earns a much-deserved spot on this mega list of LGBTQ+ songs, “BFF.”

Perhaps “BFF” doesn’t eclipse the most elite numbers from High Road, but the concept is more of a rarity than commonplace, musically speaking.  Kesha, assisted by Wrabel (with more impressive production work by Stuart Crichton), sings about her best friend, who happens to be gay. Furthermore, if you weren’t aware, the talented Wrabel is a member of the LGBTQ+ community.

“I’m callin’ up my best friend, can we just hang out tonight?
Neither of our boyfriends are even invited
When I’m with my best friend, I feel like myself again
Always make me laugh until I’m cryin’.”

Both artists reminisce about their many times together as friends, exhibiting their support and dedication for one another.  That dedication includes one of the most memorable lyrics, courtesy of Wrabel:

“I knew you were nervous, and I thought it’d make you laugh
So, I sent you a bag of candy dicks.”

Now that’s #Friendship.

4. Isaac Dunbar, “Makeup Drawer”

“Makeup Drawer” • RCA • 2020

“Insects wish the worst for me / And they befriend my enemy / And it shocks me / Oh, how it shocks me.” Sigh, the young but talented Isaac Dunbar has been quite impressive in 2020, beginning with the single, “Isaac’s Insects”. Continuing his ascent as a teen alt-pop artist signed to RCA, Dunbar released a second single, “Makeup Drawer”, which best fits the premise of this particular compendium.

“And I know where you’ll be / You locked the door to my makeup drawer / And you know where I’ll be / Rummage galore through my makeup drawer.” “Makeup Drawer” finds Isaac Dunbar being more honest and revealing.  Besides opening up to the audience, he also opens up to himself you might say. “I shattered mirrors to cope / You made me hate what I saw,” he sings on the second verse, continuing, “Ooh la la la / Oh / It’s such a pity.”  Per his Instagram, Dunbar asserts:

“This song is about the struggle I had my whole life with internalized homophobia.  My sexuality was outed by someone I thought I could trust most. I hated myself because I was not surrounded by the right support system at the time.”

Wow! The bridge seems to really focus on both Dunbar’s internalized homophobia and the person who outed him:

“I just don’t know
And just don’t care
You chew my skull
I watch and star
Make sure you’re fine
Expose my life
I hope you have a real fun time.”

Isaac Dunbar is on-point in every aspect of “Makeup Drawer” from the songwriting, production, and the vocals. The record previously appeared on the playlist,  Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy: February 2020.

5. Greyson Chance, “Dancing Next to Me”

“Dancing Next to Me” • GCM / Arista • 2020

“Twenty-two, he doesn’t drink but he needs to let loose / He doesn’t know what he wants, but I do / And I give into the moment…” Ooh la la! Greyson Chance made a fierce comeback in 2019 with the album, Portraits.  The gay musician definitely opened up more than, say, Hold On ‘Til the Night, released back when he was a kid.  Post-Portraits, Chance also released a fierce single, “Boots” – a must-hear if you haven’t indulged yet.  Chance returned in 2020, tackling matters of the heart – from a gay perspective – on “Dancing Next to Me”. Of course, regardless of your sexuality, “Dancing Next to Me” is quite relatable, particularly, after a temporary love connection…

“Hold tight, says he wants to come over / And I’ll try, I’ll try to keep my composure…” Greyson Chance has a superb team of songwriters on “Dancing Next to Me,” including Teddy Geiger, who also produces.  The result? A fun, lustful, danceable pop record that’s a perfect fit for the 22-year old standout. On the verses, he sings in commanding fashion, robustly in his lower-mid register.  He contrasts on the pre-chorus and into the chorus section, showcasing a potent, ripe falsetto.

“…But I know that you felt it
And I felt it when you were there, you were there
You were dancing next to me.”

Things are sexier on the second verse, but the listener also begins to see the ‘unhappy ending’ (“‘Slow down,’ those aren’t the words that I wanted / From our mouth / From our lips that I just kissed…”). The bridge is arguably the most important section of “Dancing Next to Me,” bringing in elements of fear, and perhaps, internalized homophobia:

“I was yours for the weekend
Come sunrise, it’s time for you to dodge your feelings
Call your girl to deny
We know is the truth
You were who you wanted to be
When you were there, you were there
You were dancing next to me.” 

“Dancing Next to Me” is pretty sweet and quite jam-packed.  Chance experiences a temporary high, only to be disappointed, ultimately.  It happens, but from the gay perspective, it’s still gaining traction as a song topic.  All in all, “Dancing Next to Me” is a bop. Awesomeness!  “Dancing Next to Me” previously appeared on the playlist,  Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy: February 2020.

6. Brittany Howard, “Georgia”

Jaime • Brittany Howard / ATO • 2019

“I just want Georgia to notice me…” Brittany Howard is best known as the front woman to the Grammy-winning, soul-infused, alternative rock collective, Alabama Shakes.  On Jaime, Howard ‘goes solo,’ releasing quite the unique and captivating project.  One of the songs that caught my attention while listening to Jaime was “Georgia”.

The aforementioned lyrics, which hail from the chorus, could be interpreted a couple of ways without context. “Georgia” is about her attraction/crush on Georgia, a lady, of course, confirming this on the verses, opening up about her sexuality.  On the first verse, she sings, “Georgia, see you don’t know it, but / I’m afraid to tell you how I really feel.”  On the second verse, she adds, “And I can’t help the way that I was born to be / I ain’t no little boy.” Then there’s the bridge, where Howard asks, “Is it unnatural? / Georgia, is it cool? / I wanna tell you that I love you…” “Georgia” previously appeared on the playlists 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in September 2019 and 15 G Songs Selected with No Rhyme or Reason.

7. Harry Styles, “Lights Up”

Fine Line • Columbia • 2019

Did Harry Styles ‘come out’ when he released single “Lights Up” on October 11, 2019 (National Coming Out Day)? That is the question surrounding the single. Regardless of how Styles identifies sexually, “Lights Up,” is quite the intriguing record. The British heartthrob went against the grain on his promo single from his sophomore album, Fine Line, and it boded well for him.

“Lights Up” contrasts most of the songs that appeared on Harry Styles’ debut album, self-titled solo debut album. “Lights Up” has elements of vintage and retro, led by the robust bass line and the keyboards.  Still, there are also some modern cues, including the sleekness of the vocal production and some programming as well.  The record possesses a great groove, and fine production work courtesy of Tyler Johnson. Vocally, Styles remains a force, sounding absolutely marvelous, as he makes it clear he will “Shine, step into the light” and notably, ‘never go back.’

Honestly, it’s the lyrics, the accompanying music video, and the significance of October 11, 2019 that add to the speculation regarding Styles’ sexuality.  Does he care? Probably not.  There does seem to be elements of bisexuality implied in the music video, while the lyrics seem to be ‘open-minded’ without specifically addressing sexuality.  But the chorus seems to ‘open the door’:

“All the lights couldn’t put out the dark

Runnin’ through my heart

Lights up and they know who you are

Know who you are

Do you know who you are? (Oh).”

“Lights Up” previously appeared on the playlists, 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in October 2019 and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

8. Myylo, “Sad Boys”

I’m a Nice Boy Too (EP) • Myylo • 2019 

“Hug all the sad boys / Chilling in their Gucci sweaters / Shrug off the sad boy / You won’t feel this way forever.” Talented LGBTQ pop singer/songwriter Myylo highlights the often-neglected topic of male sadness on his succinct but thoughtful, must-hear record, “Sad Boys”. The lo-fi highlight, which marks the second Myylo entry from I’m a Nice Boy Too (EP), not only tackles depression, but explores the way that masculinity allows or doesn’t allow men to deal with sadness.

“Sad Boys” is low-key in regard to sound, placing more emphasis on the lyrical content, mood, and theme.  That’s a pro, because Myylo has so much to say, beginning with the chromosomal reference of the first verse, to expressing sadness as men, something society so often frowns upon:

“But all my friends never get to say
We’re blue with grief
We’re thinking deep thoughts
We’re thinking deep thoughts like you woulda woulda not
Believe oo-ee believe me.”

Myylo offers solutions as well as more of the mindset on the second verse (or section if you will) of “Sad Boys.” The pop singer seems to mention about the importance of support for males going through a variety of issues that cause depression.  Adding to the characterization of “Sad Boys,” it’s also a counterpoint to dads who tell their kids to “man up” and a culture that frequently proclaims that “crying is for girls.”  Myylo offer some specific insight about the single, which makes the messaging even more potent:

“I remember being in literal shambles over getting bullied as a kid. Intuitively, I pushed those feelings down or hid my tears and never told my parents about what I was going through. Looking back, I think that was a gut response to all the ways society teaches boys not to feel. ‘Sad Boys’ is me trying to carve out a little space for boys to be sad or cry if they need to. Tears are tight. Emotions are lit. And, guess what, boys need to make space for themselves to feel them.”

“Sad Boys” is a deep, must-hear record that does a superb job of tackling a topic that seems to be ‘swept under the rug.’ Society needs to progress, particularly when it comes to masculinity.  Myylo provides ‘food for thought’ for the world, and we all seriously need to devour it. “Sad Boys” previously appeared on the playlist,

9 & 10. Clairo, “Softly” & “Sofia”

Immunity • Fader • 2019

“Didn’t mean to get so close / And I know I should probably go / But I got this feeling / Tell me girl, I gotta know.” Love is entrenched in Immunity, the debut album by alternative pop artist Clairo (Claire Cottrill). However, “Softly,” the sixth track on Immunity, adds another wrinkle – coming out.

More and more frequently, particularly in the 2010s, LGBTQ+ elements have appeared in popular music.  Clairo joins a group of musicians being true to self and sharing her journey.  Perhaps the most powerful statement comes at the end of the song on the outro: “And I don’t care what they say / … Baby, I’m doing it differently.”

“Sofia” serves as the groovy follow-up to “Softly.” “Sofia,” another standout from Immunity, finds Clairo continuing to embrace her sexuality without the least bit of shame.  Honestly, “Sofia” moves from ‘questioning’ to ‘confirmation’ and ownership… for the most part that is.

“Sofia, know that you and I / Shouldn’t feel like a crime,” she sings at the end of the chorus. Notably, Clairo tweeted about the meaning of “Sofia,” stating “‘Sofia’ is about my first ever crushes on women in the media. People like Sofia Coppola, Sofia Vergara, etc.,” as well as speaking about “internalized feelings about sexuality.”

Both “Softly” and “Sofia” previously appeared on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

11. Kevin McHale, “James Dean”

Boy (EP) • Kevin McHale • 2019

“I like this boy, right / I said I like this boy, right.” Romance and intimacy are the M.O. of “James Dean”, and the results are incredibly sexy.  Kevin McHale (not the basketball player), is probably best known for playing Artie Abrams on Glee.  Beyond that, McHale was a member of a boyband (NLT).  McHale, showing off his musicianship once more, released a five-song EP, Boy, featuring the aforementioned musical selection. It should be mentioned that McHale is gay, if the opening lyric from “James Dean” failed to clarify such.

Kevin McHale is quite playful with his performance, amplifying the innuendo and comes off incredibly authentic.  Personality is one of the biggest selling points, shining throughout the song, especially on the descriptive chorus:

“Your breath smells a little bit like a cigarette
Your sin covers your sins like a silhouette
But your kiss is the softest thing I’ve ever felt before
Wearing thrift store James Dean jeans, you’re made for sex
Used to spend the nights alone on the dark internet
And now you spend the nights instead with me in bed you know.”

Adding to the excellence is a slow tempo and excellent production work in a pop/urban contemporary style. Throw in a steamy music video accompanying “James Dean,” and McHale definitely has a progressive, must-hear pop hit on his hands.  “James Dean” previously appeared on the playlist 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in June 2019.

12. Taylor Swift, “You Need to Calm Down”

Lover • Republic • 2019

And we have one of the most controversial entries this LGBTQ+ themed playlist, sigh. Every year, I contradict myself a couple of times… okay, lots of times!  Personally, I like to call it evolution, but whatever.  Taylor Swift is a fantastic artist, but even the best can have a misstep – arguably two in her case.  We’ll focus on the one ‘misstep,’ which actually appeared on my monthly wrap-up list, 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in June 2019.  See where this contradiction is coming into play? If I liked “You Need to Calm Down” at one time, why do I now consider it among the absolute worst songs of 2019? Well, the answer for this joint from one of the best albums of 2019, Lover, is because it’s a missed opportunity – not so much some elements of the song itself.  Positives from “You Need to Calm Down” include the sound, vibe, and a super catchy chorus.  Adding to the allure of the chorus is the use of vocal layering.

But where things get hairy is the intent and execution of the intended message. Taylor Swift attempts to create an anthem encompassing love and respect for the LGBTQ+ community. That’s admirable. During the second verse, she references to GLAAD, as well as a key lyric, “Sunshine on the street at the parade / But you would rather be in the dark ages / Makin’ that sign must’ve taken all night.” The problem was, why is Swift only now attempting to be a straight ally.

Naturally, the reaction to Taylor Swift’s purported support for the LGBTQ+ community has drawn criticism. Christina Cauterucci (Slate) calls “You Need to Calm Down” “… A Teachable Moment About How Not to Be an Ally”.  Ouch! Of ‘queer-baiting’, Amelia Abraham (The Guardian) asserts it “leaves [her] cold”. Specifically, referencing the video for “You Need to Calm Down,” she writes:

“We jest, but the video for ‘You Need to Calm Down’ is not very funny, despite being intended as a campy celebration of queer culture. If singing ‘shade never made anybody less gay’ was meant to be Swift’s idea of allyship, the bad execution and cynical timing with Pride month make this video feel more like empty virtue signaling – and it’s not particularly virtuous, in my opinion, to caricature the homophobes in the video purely as ‘hillbillies’, as if only those people can be bigoted.”

Glamour and The Atlantic also had criticism regarding “You Need to Calm Down.” So, ultimately, a song that at least once tickled my fancy also opened a giant can of worms and missed a golden opportunity as a legit straight ally-ship. Damn Taylor, SMH!

13. Leon Else, “Easy Love”

“Easy Love” • Leon Else • 2019

“I need some easy love to get me through the night / I need someone to come and take you off my mind.” Apparently, British pop LGBTQ singer/songwriter Leon Else seeks to ‘escape’ through ‘easy love’ – shallow hook-ups that ultimately mean nothing.  Actually, that’s exactly how Else characterized his single, “Easy Love”.  “The song is a reflection of a period in my life where I felt everything was falling apart, and sex became something that was like a drug to me.” He continues, “I used sex as a way of escapism to try and forget the pain of what was happening around me, and it became a monster I need to feed… I was constantly chasing a sexual high all the while knowing it wasn’t the answer.” Damn, that’s a brilliant subject for a pop song.  Expectedly, “Easy Love,” released at the end of August 2019, is just that – brilliant!

“Easy Love” features lovely production work that’s bright and set in a major key. A pop song that embraces an electronic script, the synths are certainly the crème de la crème.  That said, the beat is quite effective as well.  Beyond the production, the vocals certainly earn a distinguished rating. Leon Else sings with incredibly ease, never once perspiring as he sings (at least it sounds that way!). The performance is incredibly refined.  Sure, he’s singing about sex, essentially atoning for taking a ‘L’ in some parts of his life (mental health plays a role specifically to Else), but even if it’s a messy situation, he makes it sound classy.  This is a simply, but well-written song about seeking a means to atone the pain.  Else made a sketchy choice by relying on meaningless sex to fulfill him, but ultimately, he delivers quite a relatable, surefire bop that people really need to hear.  “Easy Love” previously appeared on the playlist previously appeared on the playlist 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in September 2019.

14. Brandi Carlile, “The Joke”

By the Way, I Forgive You • Elektra • 2018

“You’re feeling nervous, aren’t you, boy? With your quiet voice and impeccable style / Don’t ever let them steal your joy / And your gentle ways, to keep ‘em from running wild.” The crown jewel of Americana singer/songwriter Brandi Carlile’s 2018 album By the Way, I Forgive You is “The Joke”.  There’s nothing funny about the excellence that is “The Joke,” period.  The under-appreciated and under-represented folks of the world have quite an anthem, which Carlile delivers with high-flying vocals and an indisputable authentic performance.  On the aforementioned excerpt, Carlile magnificently captures the pressure that a more effeminate, less masculine male feels from the ‘stereotypical,’ close-minded world. Notably, Carlile also goes beyond the implied LGBTQ+ angle, referencing the plight faced by women in a man’s world on the second verse.

As masterful as the lyrics of the verses are, it’s the soaring chorus both vocally and instrumentally that seals the deal in all its glory.

“Let ‘em laugh while they can
Let ‘em spin, let ‘em scatter in the wind
I have been to the movies; I’ve seen how it ends
And the joke’s on them.”

“The Joke” has previously appeared on the playlist Recapping 40 Stunning Ballads from 2018, not to mention the aforementioned embedded link from the Music to Atone to playlist.

15. Looseleaf, “CONFETTI”

“CONFETTI” • Looseleaf • 2019

“…We are the moisture on your tongue after a throwback of Kentucky bourbon. Rounded, mellow beats and dreamy harmonies will take you to a place you’ll want to lose yourself in. LOOSELEAF is YOU… e l e v a t e d.” Colorful electronic, art-pop duo Looseleaf, comprised of “engayged” couple Anthony Marone and Wesley Edwards, dropped distinct single, “CONFETTI” that celebrates pride, love, and community.

From the jump, it’s clear that the celebration is on, in all its major key glory. “CONFETTI” sounds incredibly bright, featuring shimmering production work that’s ‘charmingly quirky’ with its infectious, danceable groove, chopped, gimmicky vocals, and clever use of autotune.  Even with the liberal amount of vocal processing, the vocal performance itself is well-rounded – the tone quite alluring and beautiful.  As you hear the singing, the ears sense that Marone and Edwards are beaming – it’s a definite selling point.  “CONFETTI” is definitely a song that’s much more innovative than so much of the pop you hear currently on the radio.

“CONFETTI” previously appeared on the playlist, 11 Awesome Songs That Tickled My Fancy in June 2019. Furthermore, the duo was kind enough to give The Musical Hype an exclusive interview.

16. Todrick Hall, “Nails, Hair, Hips, Heels”

Haus Party, Pt. 1 • Todrick Hall • 2019

“My nails, hair, hips, heels / Nails, hair, hips, heels…” Yeah, that’s about the size of the chorus of “Nails, Hair, Hips, Heels.” All in all, multifaceted entertainer Todrick Hall brings mad attitude and energy to his 2019 album, Haus Party 1, Pt. 1. The FABULOUS, dance/house-inspired penultimate joint is no exception.

Todrick Hall says it best on the first verse asserting “Bitch, I’mma big deal” and “This whole club is my runway, run bitch.” On the pre-chorus, ‘that attitude’ doesn’t fade in the least expressing that “I work (work), I don’t play / I slay (slay), I don’t walk / I strut, strut, strut and then sashay (okay)…” The second verse is much like the first, with the confidence overflowing for Hall – “Where’s my sash and crown, ‘cause I win bitch.” The bridge goes H.A.M., with actions including “Tongue pop for me,” “Pose for me,” and my personal favorite, “Shablam for me.” This fabulous LGBTQ+ gem previously appeared on 11 Songs Loosely Associated with Hair.

17 & 18. Cub Sport, “Come Out” & “Party Pill”

Cub Sport • Cub Sport • 2019

Australian alt-pop collective Cub Sport (Tim Nelson, Dan Puusaari, Sam Netterfield, and Zoe Davis) returned in 2019 with their self-titled, third studio album.  Cub Sport certainly doesn’t disappoint, particularly incorporating the process of coming to terms with sexuality and falling in love. “Come Out” is among the biggest moments of the album, finding Nelson addressing his sexuality: “Yeah, I came out and I felt fucking free.”

While sexuality was a big deal for Nelson, he makes it clear that it isn’t the only thing he’s struggled with.  On the second verse he sings, “But there’s more I keep inside of me.” Interestingly, on the bridge, he reveals some of those struggles: “I struggle with my body and my mind from time to time.”  “Come Out” previously appeared on the playlist 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

“I think I’m gonna love you for a long time / Boy, I can’t go a minute without you on my mind.” “Party Pill” continues the progression that Cub Sport showcase throughout Cub Sport. Nelson describes falling in love for the first time and working toward acceptance and embracement of the reality. This is the perfect record for someone questioning, or who has questioned their sexuality; it’s quite relatable and authentic to the nth degree.

In the context of Cub Sport, “Party Pill” is yet another masterfully performed, produced, and written gem – arguably, the crowning achievement.  Furthermore, it’s one the best songs of 2019 that many folks have never heard, previously appearing on the playlist, 51 Best Songs of 2019: Year in Review (#48) as well as joining “Come Out” on the aforementioned 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

19. Ben Platt, “Ease My Mind”

Sing to Me Instead • Atlantic • 2019

Broadway actor (The Book of Mormon and Dear Evan Hansen), singer, and songwriter Ben Platt ‘shines bright as a beacon’ on his authentic, well-rounded debut album, Sing to Me Instead.  Sing to Me Instead comprises of some truly well-written songs that encompass love and open up his sexuality, as well as captivating vocal performances. Among the best of the album is ballad “Ease My Mind”.

“Ease My Mind” is a soaring ballad, something that Ben Platt absolutely slaughters (positively speaking). This is one of those moving, adult contemporary ballads that begins with incredible poise, eventually reaching a fever pitch. That fever pitch occurs as Platt flaunts his masterful pipes, delivering incredible nuances, runs, and showing incredible command of the performance.  “Ease My Mind” is about love and specifically being in a relationship. It finds an anxious man being eased and comforted by his lover, who knows just what to do to make him feel better.  The chorus is the centerpiece – shouting to the world that love has the power to conquer all.

“Darling, only you can ease my mind
Help me leave these lonely thoughts behind
When they pull me under, and I can feel my sanity start
Darling, only you can ease my mind.”

“Ease My Mind” previously appeared on the playlist 11 Songs Where the Mind is the Focal Point as well as 50 Best Songs of 2019 (So Far).

20. Kevin Abstract, “American Problem”

ARIZONA BABY • RCA • 2019

“I drink, I smoke, I drink, I smoke, I drink until I sleep.” Now that’s definitely could be a problem, though perhaps not specifically an “American Problem” (see what I did there?). Anyways, this playlist’s opener, “American Problem.” actually appears near the end of ARIZONA BABY, the 2019 album by Kevin Abstract of BROCKHAMPTON fame (Iridescence is a must-hear album btw).  ARIZONA BABY follows Abstract’s 2016 debut album, American Boyfriend: A Suburban Love Story. So, what exactly does make Abstract an ‘American problem?’ Well…

“American Problem” finds Abstract reflecting on his past, as well as his current reality.  Part of that includes being gay, something that has been a prevalent theme in his previous work, not to mention the work of BROCKHAMPTON. On the second verse, he states, “And all my girlfriends, they tell me / ‘Well, you would’ve been better if you picked someone who was just like you’.” He also goes on to say:

“I thought a brother was cut…
I was a flaming faggot, that’s when the principal called me
Not to my face, but I felt when I was stuck in his office
I’m just a, I’m just another American problem…”

Quite a unique listen, the production work is distinct, while Abstract’s vocals are pitch-shifted at times, and there’s singing and rapping. “American Problem” previously appeared on the playlist, 15 Must-Hear, All-American Songs.

21.Tyler, the Creator, “New Magic Wand”

IGOR • Columbia • 2019

“New Magic Wand” continues the excellence of IGOR, the ambitious 2019 studio album by Tyler the Creator. In the context of IGOR, ‘matters of the heart’ remain the focal point. Tyler makes it clear that ‘she’ needs to get ‘out of the picture.’ “She really fuckin’ up my frame,” he states at the end of the verse, continuing, “She’s not developed like we are.” Hmm, to quote Amy Winehouse, “what kind of fuckery is this?”.

Tyler, the Creator makes it clear that ‘she’s’ not a ‘he,’ thus, not the same sex, which appears to be his preference… maybe. The second verse further fuels speculation as he asserts, “My brother said I’m on the spectrum…” Sure, maybe he’s referring specifically to remarks made by his step brother but given his ‘flirtation’ with sexuality on Flower Boy and now IGOR, the fact that he could be referring to the sexual spectrum seems very possible.  Where does this magic wand come into play? Well, he’s going to remove her from the picture – R.I.P. “New Magic Wand” previously appeared on the playlist 13 Songs Where the Magic is Legit and 50 Best Songs of 2019 (So Far).

22. Mathew V, “Catching Feelings”

“Catching Feelings” • 604 • 2019

“This year, I’m going big or going home – and I certainly have no intention on going home!” That is that awesome, ‘go-getter’ attitude expressed by Vancouver pop artist Mathew V in regard to his love of being a musician and spreading and sharing “that with as many people as possible.” Mathew kills it on his 2019 single, “Catching Feelings”, which he envisions listeners recalling their high school crush. Mathew, who’s previously been featured in the Billboard Pride column saw “Catching Feelings” appear on the mag’s monthly LGBTQ playlist, Queer Necessities, for April 2019.

From the onset, the vibe of “Catching Feelings” is killer, in the most positive way possible.  He works alongside award-winning songwriter and producer Ryan Stewart whose excellent production includes an infectious groove and sleek synths. This makes “Catching Feelings” ready-made for the dance floor.  Mathew V drops absolutely sickening vocals, showing off his sexy, playful lower register on the verses, while ascending higher and packing a mightier punch on the catchy chorus. The production combined with ‘the pipes’ and incredibly fun songwriting makes “Catching Feelings” a can’t-miss PRIDE-beaming bop.

23. Charlotte Day Wilson, “Funeral”

Stone Woman (EP) • Charlotte Day Wilson • 2018

“I went to a funeral, so I could feel something / Don’t know what I’m living for, if I don’t feel nothing.” Yeah, with a funeral-themed playlist, there’s really no way to avoid some reference to, you know, D-E-A-T-H.  In this case, the funeral that standout Toronto R&B singer Charlotte Day Wilson is experiencing isn’t literal but does involve the end of a relationship.  The lyrics from the first verse continue, “And where are you without me now? I see it in my head / Getting high my nature girl, I wish you all the best.” The highlight, simply entitled “Funeral” from the 2018 EP, Stone Woman, depicts the emotions the singer feels after breaking up with a girlfriend.

While Charlotte Day Wilson is poetic in her approach, she’s also honest, wearing her emotions on her sleeves.  Of course, vocally, she’s absolutely stunning – refined, soulful, and compelling to the nth degree. On the chorus, she’s straightforward regarding the pain – “Oh, anytime I think of you, I’m empty hearted.”  That said, on the second verse, she seems to be closing the door, asserting, “Here’s a final eulogy, for us in hour name.”  Beyond the high-flying vocals and emotionally charged lyrics, the production and sound of “Funeral” is gorgeous with its use of keyboards (acoustic and electric), prominent bass, and the terrific inclusion of saxophone.

“Funeral” previously appeared on the playlist, 11 Songs Where the Focus is on the Funeral.

24. Keiynan Lonsdale, “Kiss the Boy”

“Kiss the Boy” • Keiynan Lonsdale • 2018 

“You messing my emotions up / My air gets stuck / I’m scared to show just how I feel ‘cause people talk…” And it’s that last part of the first pre-chorus from “Kiss the Boy” that makes a life-altering happening like coming out so difficult.  On “Kiss the Boy,” Keiynan Lonsdale urges embracing who you are – being true to self, coming out.  First things first of course, in case you are unaware, Lonsdale is an actor, dancer, and musician from Australia, known for his role in the CW television series The Flash, and film roles in Insurgent and Love, Simon. As you might imagine given the aforementioned lyrical excerpts, he’s a member of the LGBTQ community, but dislikes labels (he’s been labeled by media as bisexual).

It’s following the aforementioned pre-chorus that Keiynan tells us, ‘go all in!’ On the chorus, eh sings:

“If you want to kiss the boy
Then you better kiss the boy right now
You ain’t got to be afraid
Of the words you want to say right now
‘Cause love is a game we deserve to play out loud
So, if you wanna
Then you better kiss the boy.”

From that point on, Lonsdale encourages taking the plunge.  On the second verse, he asserts, “Give into love / … Give it the time,” while on the third verse, he states, “Don’t want to hide / Most of my life I’ve been terrified / Spending my days always questioning / Am I wrong to love a man.” Essentially, he captures the fears, skepticisms of so many questioning their sexuality, ultimately saying, DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE WHO YOU ARE. “Kiss the Boy” previously appeared on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

25. King Princess, “Pussy Is God”

“Pussy is God” • Zelig Music • 2018

“You know that it’s God, baby, when you’re around her / I’ve been praying for hours / You know that it’s God, baby, when you’re around her / She’s God and I’ve found her.” In 2018, genderqueer and gay artist King Princess (Mikaela Straus) joined the rank of musicians speaking on behalf of the LGBTQ+ community. She does so in risqué fashion on the distinctly-titled “Pussy is God”. The sound can be characterized as a soulful alternative-pop sound, anchored by a rhythmic beat. On this queer celebratory record, King Princess takes things a step further incorporating spiritual references blasphemously, and of course, private parts and sexual matters.

The first verse is a perfect example, where she sings:

“Your pussy is God and I love it
Gonna kiss me real hard, make me want it…
But I know you feel right so I’m coming.”

The memorable, innuendo-laden, risqué lyrics don’t stop there. On the second verse, she sings:

“…I’ve never been good at this nice shit
But I can try if you like it
It gets hard when you give a fuck
Get knocked down from some other love.”

The message regarding sexuality is loud and clear, not to mention an opportunity to make ‘private parts’ not so private – or at least sing about them openly. “Pussy is God” has appeared on numerous playlists, including 15 Songs That Focus on Private Matters, Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with PRIDE, and 13 P Songs Selected with No Rhyme or Reason.

26 & 27. Myylo, “Jonesing” & “Cyborg”

I’m a Nice Boy (EP) • Myylo • 2019

Myylo is one hell of a unique musician, “mixing idiosyncratic lyricism, janky classical guitar, lo-fi saxophone licks, and sky-high falsettos to create something truly special.” The pain of “wanting a boy who’s just too damn far away” is our listening pleasure (quasi-schadenfreude perhaps?) on “Jonesing” (I’m a nice Boy (EP)). Thematically, he’s struggling with the infamous long-distance relationship – this boy is ideal, but the distance is a problem.  What isn’t a problem is the ear-catching excellence.  The production is brilliant, including keyboards, drum programming, and a fitting saxophone solo appearing at the conclusion of the record. Lovely, warm, and soulful vocal harmonies arrive at the onset, instantly giving “Jonesing” a throwback, R&B vibe.  Ultimately, this just adds to the glory of this superb modern pop-soul record.

Theme and production bode well in Myylo’s favor, but so does his voice and his overall performance. He delivers fun, irresistibly delicious, tongue-in-cheek vocals; He has plenty of energy, and excels with his playful, flirty delivery. Melodically, “Jonesing” is quite rhythmic, devoid of dull moments. The catchiest sections are the pre-chorus and chorus, clearly where the ‘bread is buttered.’ Interestingly, the bridge finds him busting out some bars, embracing gimmickry including pitch-shifted vocals (nice nod to hip-hop). Ultimately “Jonesing” is the perfect, love-longing soulful-pop record that shouldn’t only pique the interest of the LGBT community, but pop music enthusiasts everywhere.

“I wish that I could make myself a cyborg / Shoot up into space with my jet pack / Bounce around the heavens till I found God / And ask her why I ever let you go, go, go, go…” Matters of the heart continue to affect Myylo on his brief, uniquely-titled record, “Cyborg”. Of course, it’s not every day that a cyborg is referenced in a song, let alone ends up being the song title.  The self-described ‘drama king’ (“Oh god, I’m so dramatic”) drops the aforementioned outlandish chorus to convey his feelings of regret regarding an ex-boyfriend that he let go.

It’s obviously not just the chorus that is colorful.  On the ‘Elton John’, name-dropping first verse, the “Rocket Man” is “Swooping in like a space force cowboy / Tryna get you back.” Yeah, admit it – the lyrics are damn clever.  Furthermore, on the second verse, while he’s less outlandish, he still successfully delivers the “we don’t talk about your boyfriend” because “you’d rather be mine.”

28. Ryan Beatty, “Camo”

Boy in Jeans • Boy in Jeans • 2018

“Camo print depression / I keep my feelings hidden / No pills, no thrills / I’m not used to winning / But that’s life, that’s life.” Openly gay rising pop artist Ryan Beatty is honest about love and sex throughout the course of his stellar, underrated debut album, Boy in Jeans. Boy in Jeans is an eclectic album, encompassing pop, R&B, and a dash of alternative. Clearly, he has knack for writing love songs about boys.  Also, he knows how to express his feelings, as he does superbly on the set’s second single, “Camo”. As the aforementioned lyrical excerpt suggests, as a teen, Beatty tried to ‘blend in’ – play it straight if you will – despite being gay. Obviously, this affected him mentally, before living his truth.

In addition to the theme of the record, “Camo” benefits from fresh production that’s mysterious, slick, and urban-tinged.  The beat helps “Camo” to stay afloat with its driving rhythm.  Beyond the superb backdrop fueling him, Beatty sounds absolutely terrific.  He blesses the track with a mixture of compelling, mid-range tenor and sweet falsetto. The results are a quirky, yet incredibly intriguing and personal record. “Camo” has appeared on previous playlists, 13 Awesome Songs That Highlight Mental Health and 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

29. Years & Years, “Sanctify”

Palo Santo • Polydor • 2018

British electro-pop band Years & Years brilliantly fuses sexuality and spirituality on “Sanctify”, the promo single from their 2018 album, Palo Santo. The production is bright, despite being set in a minor key (there are some major moments). Anchored by a beat fit for any hip-hop record, plus fine keyboard/synth work, the backdrop sets up Y&Y for a surefire bop.  Adding to the glory, frontman Olly Alexander delivers exuberant, expressive vocals, filled with authenticity.

The chorus is the centerpiece, but there are numerous notable lyrics, including the following excerpt with a double meaning:

“You don’t have to be straight with me
I see what’s underneath your mask
I’m a man like you, I breathe the rituals of the dancer’s dance…”

The “straight” lyric is key, as Alexander, who is gay, was inspired with experiences with straight guys.  In the linked article from Attitude, Olly asserts said straight guys were “struggling with their sexuality.” He touches upon issues of masculinity in regard to sexuality. “Sanctify,” hence, is a superb addition to the LGBTQ+ repertoire, as well as socially conscious music overall.

30. Teddy<3 (Teddy Geiger), “I Was in a Cult”

“I Was in a Cult” • Whatever • 2018

“I was a soldier under the despot / Born in the summer, all that I wanted / I am a child, I ask for the beating.” Mouth on the floor… that’s some lyricism right there. Prior to writing songs for others, Teddy Geiger managed a hit on her own back in 2006: “For You I Will (Confidence)”.  Sure, many won’t remember it or the superb debut album that a teenage Geiger released, Underage Thinking, more than a decade before transitioning. Likely, the spirit of Geiger’s new single as teddy>3, “I Was in a Cult”, references her living her own truth.

Following the aforementioned first verse, Geiger is liberated from the cult on the second half of the chorus.

“I wanna love, wanna, wanna feel
Hello, hello to my moment I steal
I wanna look to now, now that it’s real
I wanna love tonight, now that I’m free, yeah.”

Just as the linked Billboard article suggests, there’s no literal Jonestown or Heaven’s Gate being referenced here.  This seems to be confirmed by the final line of the second verse, where she sings, “Give me the warning, I’ll be a good boy.”  Given the fact that Geiger transitioned, perhaps the line is referring to feeling like there was previously no way to free herself from the cult of her gender (“I’ll be a good boy”).  Teddy<3 is definitely charged up as she sings – this is an energetic, expressive alt-rock joint.  It is, fittingly, the most turned-up during the free, high-flying chorus.

Teddy<3/Teddy Geiger lives her truth on “I Was in a Cult.”  It’s that authenticity, honesty, and the socially charged nature of this record that makes it a truly compelling and engaging listen.  The distorted vocals, and ‘percussive nature’ of the record as a whole only amplifies the overall intrigue.

31. Kacey Musgraves, “Rainbow”

Golden Hour • MCA Nashville • 2018

“Well the sky has finally opened / The rain and wind stopped blowin’ / But you’re stuck out in the same ol’ storm again…” Oh, what beautiful, beautiful lyrics, sigh.  At the 61^st Annual Grammy Awards, Kacey Musgraves came out victorious, winning the highly-coveted, prestigious award for Album of the Year (Golden Hour).  It was somewhat surprising, yet, critically, Golden Hour was one of the most beloved albums of 2018.  A mellow, but well-rounded affair, there are a number of memorable songs, including the gorgeous, colorful ballad on hand, “Rainbow.”

The superb chorus, excerpted above, continues, “You hold tight to your umbrella / Well, darlin’, I’m just tryin’ to tell ya / That there’s always been a rainbow hangin’ over your head.” “Rainbow” doesn’t arrive until the end of Golden Album.  Despite this, it caps off this fabulous affair incredibly meaningfully. This is among those totally can’t-miss, expressive piano ballads, period. Her voice, which is consistently ‘on-point’ throughout Golden Hour, is at its very best on “Rainbow.”  This record, penned years before Golden Hour, was special to Musgraves – a favorite of her late grandmother’s. Furthermore, “Rainbow” has taken on a new, anthemic role in the LGBTQ community.  Pretty cool, right? Arguably, this is one of Musgraves’ very best performances and songs of her career.  “Rainbow” previously appeared on the playlist, 14 Songs Characterized by Colors.

32 & 33. ZEE MACHINE, “Brainchemistry” & “If You Were My Boyfriend”

Brainchemistry – EP • ZEE MACHINE • 2018

Brainchemistry marks the debut EP from California pop artist ZEE MACHINE.  On the spirited, minor-key title track “Brainchemistry,” ZEE MACHINE asserts he can’t change the way he is wired.  How is he wired exactly? Well, he’s gay, and nothing that anybody says is going to change that. Sounds sensible. This is a fast-paced, ‘out and proud’ anthem, and nothing’s gonna kill his vibe.  To quote Adam Lambert, ZEE MACHINE doesn’t seem to give “Two Fux” what anybody thinks about him.

Sure, ZEEMACHINE doesn’t offer specific research or scientific-based evidence on “Brainchemistry” – we wouldn’t expect such on a pop song.  That said, the song itself has a fair amount of associations with science.  First of all, there’s a field of study of which ‘brain chemistry’ comes into play, called neurochemistry. Obviously, a chemical imbalance in the brain changes things – understatement.  In regards to the homosexual component of “Brainchemistry,” there has been research, one such study highlighted by Live Science: Is Homosexuality Based on a Brain Chemical?.  Notably, the record has appeared on numerous playlists including Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with Pride and 13 Totally Captivating Songs That Reference Science.

“I could be your one and all / Pin you up against the wall / And I’d make you feel so safe and sound / Take your picture secretly / Make it dirty just for me / And I’d use it when nobody’s around.” Ooh la la – someone’s crushing hard! On another standout from Brainchemistry, the silky-smooth, urban-pop ballad “If You Were My Boyfriend,” ZEE MACHINE tells his potential man everything he’s willing to do to be a good partner to him.  Clearly, he’s made mistakes, something he highlights on the bridge, where he delivers some of his best vocals. Here, despite ample flaws (a wandering eye and beyond), he ultimately believes, “If you were my boyfriend,” he’d be a better person and fully committed.  Regardless where your sexuality lies, “If You Were My Boyfriend” is an incredibly relatable, superbly conceived record. I addition to appearing on Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with Pride, “If You Were My Boyfriend” previously appeared on the playlist 10 Alluring Boyfriend or Girlfriend Songs.

34. Janelle Monáe, “Pynk”

Ft. Grimes

Dirty Computer • Bad Boy • 2018

“Pynk, like the inside of your… baby.” Dirty Computer, the third album by eclectic R&B artist Janelle Monáe, is by far her boldest and most personal, with highlight “Pynk” leading the charge. On the verses, Monáe likens pynk to vagina, women in general, and feminism. The theme of the record – feminism and same-sex female attraction/love – earns more attention than the production and sound of the record, which is excellent in its own right.

“Yeah, somethin’ like that
Owwww! Somethin’ like thar
Yeah, somethin’ like that
‘Cause boy, it’s cool if you got blue
We got the pynk.”

Dirty Computer serves as Monáe’s coming out party – she officially came out as pansexual during the album rollout. “Pynk” was selected as the third best song on the 100 Best Songs of 2018.  It also appears on a pair of LGBTQ-themed lists: 15 Notable LGBTQ Songs From 2018, as well as the previous edition of this particular list.

35. Brandi Carlile, “Every Time I Hear That Song”

By the Way, I Forgive You • Elektra • 2018

“By the way, I forgive you / After all, maybe I should thank you / For giving me what I’ve found / ‘Cause without you around / I’ve been doing just fine / Except for any time I hear that song…” Everybody knows that the crown jewel of By the Way, I Forgive You, the Grammy-winning 2018 album by Brandi Carlile, is “The Joke”, which appears earlier on this very playlist. That said, opener “Every Time I Hear That Song” not only kicks off By the Way, I Forgive You with a bang, but there’s also a key LGBTQ+ element (more on that later).

The titular album lyric appears on the intriguing opener (excerpted above), encompassing a previous relationship. Apparently, the relationship was quite one-sided (“Because I gave you all I had and got the worst of you”), yet Carlile takes the high road, forgiving her ex. The titular lyric also has a deeper meaning, as Carlile, who is both a lesbian and Christian, forgives her pastor for not baptizing her as teen, due to her sexuality.

36 & 37. Matt Fishel, “Bored of Straight Boys” & “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him”

M/F • Young Lust • 2018

“And he can’t help himself from explaining / All the things he does to girls during sex.” Uh oh… We have an anti-straight boy anthem on our hands – nothing boring about that, right? Right!   Matt Fishel isn’t feeling the actions and despicable attitude of straight guys on the stand out from his 2018 album, M/F. On the infectious chorus, he proclaims, “And I’m so bored of straight boys / Who only wanna talk football, down alcohol, and hassle women.”

Fishel also incorporates same-sex references, including, “Somebody didn’t get enough bromance in as a teen, I suppose / Finally getting your chance to enjoy some same sex action with all of your bros.”  And to all the straight boys out there, he’s “…Not calling all hetero boys out/…But we all know those bros who act like dickheads.” Colorful joint to say the least… maybe not for straight boys though.  “Bored of Straight Boys” previously appeared on the playlists 8 Songs That Certainly Won’t Leave You Bored, 14 Songs That Are About Boys or Girls, and 100 Best Songs of 2018.

“Bored of Straight Boys” isn’t the only LGBTQ+ standout from M/F – we can’t leave out “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him.” “He’s in my heart, he’s in my lungs / He’s in everything that I touch / And I don’t know if I’m his salvation / But he feels like a savior to me.” That’s infatuation to the nth degree. Sigh, the rock singer/songwriter simply can’t stop thinking about this particular guy.  Throughout “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him,” he keeps his feelings 100.  On the first verse, Fishel asserts, “He wakes me up in a sweat on a Sunday morning / With the prettiest smile I think I’ve ever seen.” Later, in the same verse, he sings, “He’s just too beautiful to let out of my grip / That boy’s so damn perfect, all the other guys hate him.”

Expectedly, given the ‘obsession’, on the second verse, Fishel is even more descriptive, taking fanboy to the next level.  “He’s got that chiseled jaw and cute freckles on both of his cheeks,’ he sings, continuing, “How I ache when he’s dressed in that chest-hugging vest with his guns out.” Despite as thirsty as Fishel feels, he surprisingly doesn’t cross the line. Notably, “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him” previously  appeared on the  playlists 15 Songs Where Guys Sing About Guys and 14 He, She, Her, or Him Songs.

38. Troye Sivan, “Bloom”

Bloom • Capitol • 2018

“And it’s true, baby / I’ve been saving this for you, baby.” Alternative pop musician Troye Sivan has been honest about his life as an openly gay man, highlighted by his superb debut album, Blue Neighbourhood.  He continues such honesty and openness on “Bloom”, the title track from his sophomore album.

On the first verse, he takes us on a trip:

“Take a trip into my garden
I’ve got so much to show ya
The fountains and the waters
Are begging just to know ya.”

Following the first verse, the refrain provides more perspective as to where Sivan is going – He’s seems willing to bloom sexually.  The innuendo is ‘out of the roof.’ Even though “Bloom” encompasses the physical, Sivan also highlights the emotions of the experience, which is what separates this from songs merely about empty sex.  On the pre-chorus, he sings, “Hold my hand if I get scared now,” which represents vulnerability, a legitimate emotion associated with losing one’s virginity.  On the chorus, Sivan exhibits dedication to his boyfriend, willing to ‘give it up’ because he truly ‘feels some type of way’ about him.

39. Ryan Beatty, “Cupid”

Boy in Jeans • Boy in Jeans • 2018

As previously stated, Ryan Beatty is honest about love and sex throughout the course of his stellar, underrated debut album, Boy in Jeans. Boy in Jeans is an eclectic album, encompassing pop, R&B, and a dash of alternative. Clearly, he has knack for writing love songs about boys.  Also, he knows how to express his feelings. On “Cupid”, Beatty sings to a high school, closeted boy crush – well, we assume that’s the case. “Camo” deals with Beatty’s own sadness of being closeted essentially, while “Cupid” finds him connecting with a boy who (1) could be straight or (2) hasn’t come out and (3) has a girlfriend.

Regardless, from Beatty’s perspective, he at least hopes he’ll eventually come out you might say.

“And when we get older
And y’all break up someday
And this is not a secret
Maybe then you’ll say you love me back
But until then I’ll be dreaming about that.”

Filled with vocals featuring unique effects, he begins addressing his desires:

“He’s the only one on my mind
He’s the only one I call when I’m feeling reckless
Tell me that you’re mine.”

The second verse is particularly telling:

“Press your lips against my neck
With me you don’t pretend like you’re with your girlfriend
She’s nice but she’s not me
She’s nice but hates me
Date me, I’m just playing
Didn’t mean to say that…
But if you’re down, so am I
I can’t lie.”

“Cupid,” like “Camo,” has appeared on multiple playlists, including 15 Songs Where Guys Sing About Guys, 11 Awesome Valentine Songs for Every Day of the Year, Totally Awesome LGBTQ Songs Beaming with Pride, and 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

40. Dom McAllister, “Prospects”

“Prospects” • Dom McAllister • 2018

“I’m thinking that you want it / Sitting by the fire with your wet shirt in the dryer / Maybe you can make a move any minute.” Rising London R&B singer/songwriter Dom McAllister brilliantly showcases vulnerability on his authentic, honest & incredibly relatable 2018 single, “Prospects”. “Prospects” can be described as a “new freedom of expression for him – experiences with sexuality, anxiety, and the maelstrom of emotions that comes with it.”

“Got my patience on the line … / Boy or girl this time, man you can’t make up your mind / Your preference ain’t my business / But you leave me on the side it ain’t right.” There’s lots to love about “Prospects,” which is smooth and sensual in sound.  Dom McAllister has a truly distinct voice, and he shines like a beacon throughout. Specifically, his performance is beautiful and intimate – it’s clear that he’s being authentic, honest, and incredibly open.  Listening to his experiences with sexuality, he’s so highly effective in his delivery that you can personally feel the emotions that he’s conveying.

While Dom does awesome bearing his soul and exhibiting vulnerability that so many artists lack, he’s also pretty damn cool as well.  He serves up the rhythmic melody on the second verse with a great swagger. The same can be said of the ‘pop-rap oriented’ sound of the bridge, clearly idiomatic of modern R&B and urban contemporary music.  As cool as those two specific sections are, the meaningful, catchy chorus is where his ‘bread is buttered.’  The falsetto is on-point, while dropping the f-bomb only adds bite and intensifies the feelings he releases to the world.

“It’s not even about my fucking respect
The lack you give when you get lonely
Your place or mine, I’ll pick up this time
Pay me back, story of your life.”

41 & 42. Hayley Kiyoko, “Curious,” & “What I Need”

Expectations • Atlantic • 2018

Hayley Kiyoko, notably nicknamed “Lesbian Jesus,” shines on “Curious”, one of many standouts from her debut album Expectations. Throughout the course of the album, she’s unafraid to speak from a queer perspective.  On “Curious,” she’s exuberant, sparkling in her upper register on the infectious pre-chorus. She follows up with incredibly rhythmic vocals on the chorus, where her attitude and feistiness are a pro. Sexuality plays a pivotal role here and throughout Expectations, as Kiyoko is curious about a previous relationship with a girl who is now with a boy.  This fun, well-produced record that builds a strong case for Kiyoko artistically.

On another highlight from Expectations, “What I Need,” Kiyoko enlists Grammy-nominated, bisexual R&B singer Kehlani.  The chorus is incredibly infectious, easily getting stuck in one’s head. Perhaps more important than the catchiness of the record is that it’s a perfect example of fearlessness when it comes to sexuality. “When we’re alone, girl, you wanna own it,” Kiyoko sings on her verse.

43. MNEK, “Tongue”

Language • Virgin • 2018 

Rising English dance, pop, and R&B artist MNEK (and member of the LGBTQ+ community) showcased massive potential in 2018 on his utterly infectious single, “Tongue” (Language).  “Tongue” begins abruptly with MNEK showcasing the beauty of his voice. He possesses a gorgeous tone and a compelling falsetto, particularly on the pre-chorus section.  A surprising change of pace occurs on the chorus, where he begins singing in his lower register, in somewhat tongue in cheek fashion.

Ultimately, it’s this part of the song that’s the crowning achievement of “Tongue.”

“So, I’m putting both hands over my mouth
I can only hope nothing’s gonna come out
But there it is on the tip of my tongue
(I think I love you)
I think you’re the one.”

In the music video, MNEK is true to self, giving the visual a clear, unapologetic LGBTQ vibe.

44. Carlos Vara, “Numb”

“Numb” • Carlos Vara • 2018

“You fill me up to pour me up / You build me just to break me down.” “Numb” is the stunning debut single by 20-year old, openly gay, Nashville-based pop-soul newcomer, Carlos Vara. It blends old-school soul with some modern pop and urban contemporary trickery.  Among the superb sounds are the vintage guitar chords, dusty, hard-hitting drums, a dash of trumpet, and synths. Narratively, Vara’s lover has him completely out of sorts.

With his expressive, robust pipes, he sums up his feelings, particularly on the record’s centerpiece, the chorus.

“You make me go numb
Hypnotized, I know it’s dangerous
Don’t speak, just make me come down.”

Discussing the viral success of “Numb,” Vara tells Patrick Crowley (Billboard):

“‘Numb’ is written in a way where it sounds very relationship-y, but it was really written at a time in my life when there were just so many emotions going on with a bunch of different relationships and I felt, well, numb to it all.”

45-46. Ezra Furman, “Suck the Blood from My Wound” & “Compulsive Liar”

Transangelic Exodus • Bella Union • 2018

Gender-fluid rock musician Ezra Furman maintains something of cult-following. Self-described as a ‘Queer Outlaw Saga,’ Furman’s 2018 album Transangelic Exodus is incredibly underrated as well as incredibly special. “I woke up bleeding in the crotch of a tree,” Furman sings on phenomenal opening highlight, “Suck the Blood from My Wound”.  Furman sings with incredible grit, delivering his concept of transangelicism.

“Blood on my angel’s lips blends with his make-up
… Peeling off bandages to unfold his wings
The doctors said they’d have to stay on for another three weeks
Fuck it baby, let ‘em bruise, let ‘em break
But bleed, let ‘em bleed.”

Sure, Furman has a concept in mind, but more relatable, “Suck the Blood from My Wound” encompasses body transformation, a prevalent social issue generally, and specifically to the trans community. “Suck the Blood From my Wound” previously appeared on the playlist, 11 Songs by Male Artists Centered on Blood.

“I’ve got one fatal flaw: I’m a compulsive liar.” Another highlight from Transangelic Exodus is its sixth song, “Compulsive Liar.” On “Compulsive Liar,” Furman discusses about hiding and lying about his sexuality. Speaking about the act of lying and his feelings, he sings, “And I can trace the habit / To when I was eleven / And I thought boys were pretty / And I couldn’t tell no one.” He continues to impart his story, singing about that “all-protective closet”:

“It opens at a young age:
That all-protective closet
Just lock the door
And settle in among the raincoats
The longer you stay in there
The More you’ll get distorted
The more contorted all your lies will have to be.”

Deep. Obviously, Furman’s solution is to be honest and tell the truth: “Stand up and turn the doorknob.” “Compulsive Liar” previously appeared on the playlist, 13 ‘Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire’ Songs.

47. Janelle Monáe, “Make Me Feel”

Dirty Computer • Bad Boy • 2018

“You keep on asking me the same questions / And second guessing all my intentions / Should know by the way I use my compression / That you’ve got the answers to my confessions.” Dirty Computer, the third album by eclectic R&B artist Janelle Monáe, was by far her boldest, most personal, and most transcendent album of her career. Unsurprisingly, the accomplished 2018 album was nominated for the Grammy’s most prestigious category, Album of the Year.  Among the best songs from the LP is “Make Me Feel”.

On “Make Me Feel,” Monáe blends throwback 80s R&B-funk production, and modern, urban contemporary fare.  Notable instruments used are guitars and of course, keyboards. Also, Grammy-nominated pop singer-songwriter Julia Michaels serves as a co-writer. The influence of Prince is evident, particularly the yelps that occur on the bridge section.  Monáe delivers sexy-sounding vocals, in line with liberated, risqué, and sensual nature of Dirty Computer.  As the aforementioned lyrics suggest, Monáe is opening up sexually, confirming queer speculation you might say. It’s further confirmed with lyrics such as, “It’s like I’m powerful with a little bit of tender / An emotional sexual bender.” The chorus is the crème de la crème:

“That’s just the way you make me feel
That’s just the way you make me feel
So good, so good, so fuckin’ real
That’s just the way you make me feel.”

“Make Me Feel” was ranked as the 29^th best song of 2018 on the year in review playlist, 100 Best Songs of 2018, and also appears on the playlists, Emotional Songs Where It’s All About the Feel, Vol. 1 and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

48. Rita Ora, “Girls”

Ft. Cardi B, Bebe Rexha & Charli XCX

Phoenix • Atlantic • 2018 

“I ain’t one-sided, I’m open-minded / I’m fifty-fifty and I’m never gonna hide it.” Perhaps, her heart was in the right place, but Rita Ora fell far short on her star-studded bisexually-driven anthem, “Girls” (Phoenix), which features Cardi B, Charli XCX, and Bebe Rexha. Typically, socially charged songs, particularly those with a LGBTQ tilt, are applauded.  That has NOT been the case with  “Girls,” which has received widespread criticism.  Considered to be among the worst songs of 2018, to Ora’s credit, she makes a statement about sexuality, specifically bisexuality, albeit poorly stated.

On the aforementioned Rita Ora excerpt from the first verse, she seems to be admitting that she’s bisexual, or at least not merely heterosexual.  Charli XCX follows up with the pre-chorus encompassing a lesbian relationship, ménage trois, and kush – hmm. On the chorus, both admit, “I just wanna kiss girls.” Rexha joins on the second verse, focusing on same-sex attraction with Cardi B capping things off: “I steal your bitch, have her down with the scissor / Tonight, I don’t want a dog, I want a kitten.” Again, Ora and company oversimplify bisexuality, same-sex attraction, and sexuality in general.  This is a misguided pop record through and through, that had it been executed properly, could’ve packed a mightier punch.

Even so, “Girls” previously appeared on the playlist, Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with PRIDE.  Additionally, it also graced the playlists Songs About Girls, Vol. 1 and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

49. Ryan Beatty, “God in Jeans”

Boy in Jeans • Boy in Jeans • 2018

“God is real, he was sleeping in my bed last night / We were naked with the radio on / Played him my favorite song.” Ryan Beatty gets blasphemous on the chorus of “God in Jeans,” one of a countless number of highlights from his debut album, Boy in Jeans.  Sorry God… but it’s difficult not to “yield to temptation” for this bop. “God in Jeans” features a sick, hard-hitting, soulful beat.  This provides as a great anchor to the alt-pop/rock sound. Notably, it’s different from anything else on Boy in Jeans.  Besides the aforementioned, there are more spiritual references on the verses including prayer, joy, preaching, and choir.

On the second verse, he seems to address both his boyfriend, and judgmental people as he sings, “Oh my God, you know I need ya / If I’m going to hell, I’m taking you with me.”  There are Christians (not all) who don’t approve of homosexuality and consider it a ticket to hell.  We don’t have a visual, unfortunately, but the boy definitely wears those jeans well – at least if we go by the audio. “God in Jeans” has appeared on numerous playlists including 15 Songs Where Guys Sing About Guys and  God is in the Midst of These 11 Secular Songs.

50. Jesse Saint John, “FAKE IT”

FAKE IT – Single • We Are: The Guard • 2018

According to Out, Jesse Saint John, “that blonde L.A. wild child with a taste for bombast and badassery – has finally emerged with some music of his own.”  Jesse Saint John, hence, takes the reins as a solo artist on the enjoyable, 80s-infused “Fake It”, his second career single. Providing further insight into the ‘decorated newbie,’ Billboard states Saint John  “has collaborated with the likes of Britney Spears, Camila Cabello, Sia, and Charli XCX.”  Decorated indeed.

“Fake It” commences enigmatically, before the 80s are reborn right before our eyes incorporating rhythmic synths, lush pads, and that signature, boxy drum programming.  Even though 80s pop and new wave has a big influence, there are also some modern touches (808s), keeping things fresh. Overall, the sound is fitting for Saint John, who delivers relatively cool vocals, packing more punch on the chorus.  “Fake It” is about vibe, and he slays in that department.

51. Years & Years, “Preacher”

Palo Santo • Polydor • 2018 

“But you’re hiding, yeah, you’re hiding / You should come on out,” Olly Alexander of Years & Years sings on “Preacher,” another gem from , Palo Santo. A ‘preacher’ is instantly associated with religion, but “Preacher” encompasses social and sexual themes, in addition to spiritual matters. Alexander urges his love interest to live his truth as opposed to lying about his sexuality.

On the chorus, he sings:

“He’s a preacher, but he’s preaching a lie
… I’m a creature with a fever so high
… And my temptation, you can’t escape it
God, baby, take me tonight.”

Given the secular nature of this ‘preacher’ song, which appeared on 11 Secular Songs About Praying, Preaching & Baptism, you probably shouldn’t play it in church… “Preacher” also appeared on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

52. Tyler, the Creator, “OKRA”

“OKRA” • Columbia • 2018

For the most part, “OKRA” is a song that certainly doesn’t sound like it fits the LGBTQ+ bill in the least.  Maybe it doesn’t, however, the third verse raises curious case of the potentially ambiguous sexuality of Grammy-winning rapper, Tyler, the Creator. Tyler seems to join the bandwagon in admiration for young, burgeoning, Academy Award-nominated actor, Timothée Chalamet.

“Tell Tim Chalamet to come get at me
Skin’ glowing, clear of acne.”

Looking back on his 2017 Grammy-nominated album, Flower Boy, he did admit to “kissing white boys.” Even with a fancy for Chalamet, he later references his “bitch mixed like jambalaya.” Perhaps he really is just complimenting Chalamet’s skin… who knows with Tyler. Regardless, isn’t it possible “Okra” dabbles in sexual fluidity, whether intentionally or merely for shock value?

53. Tove Lo, “Bitches (Remix)”

Ft. Charli XCX, Icona Pop, Elliphant & ALMA

“Bitches (Remix)” • Universal • 2018

Swedish artist Tove Lo always seems to ‘push the envelope.’ A perfect example arrives via “bitches”, the seventh track from her 2017 album, BLUE LIPS (lady wood phase II).  In 2018, Tove Lo returned with a remix of the record, featuring Charli XCX, Icona Pop, Elliphant, and ALMA.  The song explores lesbianism (Tove Lo is bisexual).  She starts things off bluntly with lines like “Know your own love, I don’t fuck with no glove” and “Let me be your guide when you eat my pussy out.” Charli XCX, drops in for the pre-chorus asserting, “All the girls stare at me, drop lip / Dripping in harmony, like Fifth.”

Joined by Tove Lo, they deliver the ‘filter-less’ hook:

“Bitches, I don’t trust ‘em
But they give me what I want for the night
Bitches, I don’t trust ‘em
But I tell ‘em and they do what I like.”

Icona Pop arrives for the second verse, ending with a bang: “So, baby, spread your legs, I’ll do the same, already cumming.” On the third verse, Elliphant and ALMA trade solo lines, while also performing alongside Tove Lo.  So, what does one make of this blunt record? Depends on who you are, where you are, and what your perspectives are.  What is clear is that Tove Lo isn’t afraid to speak about her sexuality and manages to get unique pop single out of it.  “Bitches” previously appeared on several playlists:  Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming With Pride, 13 Totally B!+chin’ Songs, and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

54. Janelle Monáe, “I Like That”

Dirty Computer • Bad Boy • 2018

Janelle Monáe characterizes herself throughout the course of the soulful “I Like That”, among many highlights from her third studio album, Dirty Computer. On the verses, she paints a picture of eclecticism and nonconformity.  On the second verse, she asserts, “Take a different type of girl to keep the whole world afloat.” There’s dualism about the particular lyric.  In one token, Monáe is revealing more about her sexuality to the world.  In another token, she simply seems to be asserting she’s a special, truly unique person who can’t be pigeonholed.

On the pre-chorus, she continues this characterization, while she snarls on the chorus.

“And I like that
I don’t really give a fuck if I was just the only one
Who likes that?
I never like to follow, follow around, the chase is on.”

The confident, proud, self-loving record previously appeared on various playlists: Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with PRIDE and, more recently, 11 Empowering Songs About Loving Yourself.

55. Jeff Carl, “Buried in New York”

“Buried in New York” • Jeff Carl • 2018

Jeff Carl is an eclectic singer/songwriter based in Nashville, Tennessee.  Stylistically, his musical tastes encompass alternative, pop, ballad, acoustic, and more.  On his single “Buried in New York”, Carl contributes another fine addition to a growing number of LGBTQ-oriented relationship songs.  “Buried in New York” was premiered by Billboard Pride and features a compelling accompanying music video.  Regardless of your sexuality, “Buried in New York” is relatable on a number of levels.

The record features moody vibes from the onset, embodying the heartbreak. A sound palette of electronic sounds – synths, pads, and keyboards – helps to construct the moody backdrop.  Another pro is the thoughtful, memorable songwriting. Vocally, Jeff Carl stands out instantly with his beautiful, distinct tone. His approach helps to make the record captivating.  He maintains poise throughout much of the record, avoiding histrionics, benefitting ultimately from his subtlety. He does bring more oomph towards the end of the record, intensifying the emotions.

56. MNEK, “Crazy World”

Language • Virgin • 2018

“Crazy World” features unique, quirky, and somewhat gimmicky production.  The record sounds different from the norm, keeping things both fresh and interesting.  “Crazy World” features a busy groove, colorful synths, and epic backing vocals. MNEK delivers a fantastic vocal performance, sounding distinct, pure, soulful, and beautiful on this highlight from Language.

One of his best moments arrives on the third verse, where he not only delivers those sensational and expressive runs, but also speaks on the homophobia of a father towards his gay son:

“A father is disappointed by his son…
He’s told him that he’s in love with someone
Less her and more him
He’s coming out, he can’t keep it in.”

It is this specific verse that earned “Crazy World” a spot on Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with PRIDE, as well as this LGBTQ+ mega list.

57. Ryan Beatty, “Powerslide”

Boy in Jeans • Boy in Jeans • 2018

“He gave me pleasure underneath the water / And it felt so good / Now we’re power sliding till the flood spurts stop us…” Wow, the lust – or more accurately, the pleasure – is real for Ryan Beatty on “Powerslide”, a standout from his stellar, eclectic 2018 debut album, Boy in Jeans. The openly gay, former teen-pop artist is honest about love and sex throughout the album.  The Fader says it best – “Ryan Beatty writes really good pop songs about boys.”

“Powerslide” plays up the soulful summer, West Coast vibes. It screams infatuation and sex, including the aforementioned ‘pool job’. On the second verse, he’s playful with words, while being explicit at the same time:

“Now we share a couple of cigarettes before we go to bed and you
Got the plastic
That’s fucking fantastic.”

Clearly, the relationship between Beatty and his boyfriend is LIT.  Also, pretty ‘lit’ is the fact that “Powerslide” also appears on an incredibly powerful playlist, 10 Songs Overflowing with Power as well as the lustful 21 Songs That Dabble in Lust & Carnal Matters.

58. Sufjan Stevens, “Mystery of Love”

Call Me by Your Name • Madison Gate • 2017

“Hold your hands upon my head / Till I breathe my last breath.” Sufjan Stevens is poetic throughout the course of “Mystery of Love,” a song appearing from the soundtrack to the Academy-Award-nominated film, Call Me by Your Name.  Call Me by Your Name is a film depicting a gay coming of age story.

Stevens performs in his usual hushed manner, depicting new love as well as the hardships and plights of love.  Clever throughout its course, some of the cleverest Sufjan Stevens lyrics occur in the second verse, which references Hephaestion and Alexander, the Great.

“Lord, I no longer believe
Drowned in living waters
Cursed by the love that I received
From my brother's daughter
Like Hephaestion, who died
Alexander's lover
Now my riverbed has dried
Shall I find no other?” 

“Mystery of Love” previously appeared on the playlist, 11 Songs Where Musicians Were Sexually Awakened.

59. Sam Smith, “HIM”

The Thrill of It All • Capitol • 2017 

Much of The Thrill It All sounds familiar in regard to Sam Smith establishing a sound and vibe.  “HIM” maintains that familiarity, but also exhibits a ‘different look.’  That different look goes beyond the high-flying, robust choral vocals backing them.  Smith is both spiritual, praying to God, and opens up about their sexuality.

“Holy father, we need to talk
I have a secret that I can’t keep
I’m not the boy that you thought you wanted
Please don’t get angry, have faith in me.”
The message goes beyond Smith’s own status as gay; it’s all encompassing.  This is crystal clear on the chorus.
“Don’t you try and tell me that God doesn’t care for us
It is him I love; it is him I love.”

“HIM” previously appeared on the playlist, 15 Songs Where Guys Sing About Guys.

60. Logic, “1-800-273-8255”

Ft. Alessia Cara & Khalid

Everybody • Def Jam • 2017

With the release of the Grammy-nominated “1-800-273-8255” (Everybody, 2017), Logic released the biggest, heaviest, and most meaningful song of his career.  What makes “1-800-273-8255” so heavy? The title is the phone number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Logic approaches the song as a progression, starting from the suicidal perspective, encouraging the suicidal person to embrace life, and the suicidal person coming to the desire to live. He’s assisted by an angelic Alessia Cara and Khalid, who provides the punctuation mark, as the suicidal person who’s seen the light.

What’s the significance of the song, and suicide itself to the LGBTQ community? Suicide is a major issue. While the song doesn’t explicitly mention homosexuality or sexuality whatsoever, it’s a key component of the accompanying music video, which focuses on a black gay teen struggling with his sexuality. He contemplates suicide, but gets the proper help, as well as acceptance, a driving factor in his suicidal endeavors. “1-800-273-8255” has  appeared on multiple playlists: 100 Best Songs of 2017, Songs Centered Around or Referencing Suicide, Vol. 1, 11 Songs Associated with the Phone, 15 Songs That Center Around Sadness & Depression, and 13 Awesome Songs That Highlight Mental Health.

61. Trey Pearson, “Love is Love”

Love is Love • Trey Pearson • 2017

Trey Pearson, the former frontman of Christian rock band Everyday Sunday, shocked the world when he came out as a gay man in 2016.  Homosexuality is far more widely accepted than it once was, but the Christian/Christian music community is a bit of a different situation.  Unsurprisingly, Pearson exited the band as well as left the Christian rock scene.

According to a Huffington Post article written by Curtis M. Wong, Pearson states:

“When I came out, I lost a lot of people in my life…I had to just completely start over and rebuild relationships and figure out my life as an out gay man.”

Pearson may have had to rebrand and rebuild himself, but he certainly didn’t quit music.  On November 17, 2017, he released his brief debut album, Love is Love.

“And I never believed before now / Maybe tonight we’ll find out / Don’t wanna leave / Can’t get enough / I know that love is love.”  Title track “Love is Love” beams with pride for many reasons.  Firstly, the song arrived on October 11, which is National Coming Out Day. Secondly, via his conversation with Billboard, Pearson describes the song as “an anthem celebrating the freedom to love each other, without fear, because all you need is love.” In the aforementioned Huffington Post article, regarding the music video for “Love is Love,” Pearson states, “I really wanted to capture the range of emotions I’ve felt in the past year… I felt like I was able to feel completely vulnerable.” “Love is Love” previously appeared on playlists Totally Awesome LGBTQ Songs Beaming with Pride and 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

62. Halsey, “Strangers”

Ft. Lauren Jauregui

hopeless fountain kingdom • Astralwerks • 2017

Alt-pop artist Halsey, who is bisexual, tackled a lesbian relationship on her 2017 hit, “Strangers”, which appears on her sophomore album, Hopeless Fountain Kingdom. Its content is different from most of the songs featured on the album. Early on, it establishes itself as an LGBTQ song.  On the first verse, she sings: “She doesn’t kiss me on the mouth anymore / ‘Cause it’s more intimate, than she thinks we should…”

The chorus confirms the LGBTQ tilt:

“Said that we’re not lovers, we’re just strangers
With the same damn hunger
To be touched, to be loved, to feel anything at all.”

Lauren Jauregui, a member of Fifth Harmony (also bisexual), similarly shares her side of the story on the second verse. Both unite on the bridge:

“I miss the mornings with you laying in my bed
I miss the memories replaying in my head
I miss the thought of a forever, you and me
But all you’re missing is my body.”

“Strangers” previously appeared on several playlists: 12 Friends & Strangers Songs, Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming With Pride, and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

63. Tyler, the Creator, “Garden Shed”

Flower Boy • Columbia • 2017

Before there was “Okra”, there was a slow jam named “Garden Shed.” “Garden Shed” is a highlight from Flower Boy, the 2017 Grammy-nominated album by Tyler, the Creator.  The record at hand is potential source suggesting that the rappers is/has coming out / came out.  On the chorus, Estelle (famous for “American Boy”)  provides potential imagery that hints at this: “Don’t kill a rose / Before it could bloom / Fly, baby, fly / Out the cocoon.”

Later, Tyler seems to address his sexuality himself, without explicitly saying he’s gay, bisexual, or otherwise.

“Truth is, since a youth kid, thought it was a phase
Thought it’d be like the phrase; ‘poof,’ gone
But it’s still goin’ on.” 

To quote Kacey Musgraves, “Follow Your Arrow”.

64. Young M.A., “OOOUUU”

Herstory • M.A Music • 2017

Normally, a rap song titled “OOOUUU” (Herstory, 2017) doesn’t seem fitting to appear on a serious, socially conscious playlist.  However, when the respective rapper is a member of the LGBTQ+ community and is unafraid to show it, it amplifies the significance of said song.  Young M.A., who is openly gay, raps about sexual endeavors numerous times throughout the course of this banger.

Notably, Young M.A is as bold with sexual references directed towards women, as her male counterparts are.

“Baby gave me head, that’s a low blow
Damn she make me weak when she deep throat
I need a rich bitch not a cheap ho
They be on that hate shit; I peep though.”

There’s also this:

“If that’s your chick, then why she texting me?
Why she keep calling my phone speaking sexually
Every time I’m out, why she stressing me?
You call her Stephanie? I call her Head-phanie (OOOUUU).”

65. Superfruit, “GUY.exe”

Future Friends • RCA • 2017

“Oh I, wish I could synthesize / A picture-perfect guy / Oh I, oh I / Six feet tall and super strong / We’d always get along / Alright, alright…” Both members of Superfruit, Mitch Grassi and Scott Hoying – also members of Pentatonix – are openly gay. Notably on “GUY.exe.” (Future Friends, 2017), Mitch and Scott fearlessly lay out what they look for in the perfect MAN.  More and more, pop music has become more open-minded, exploring beyond exclusively heterosexual love scenarios.

What stands out about “GUY.exe.” is that essentially, Superfruit looks for some of the same characteristics as the heterosexual crowd.

“…Oh, he’d pick me up at eight
And not a minute late
Cause I don’t like to wait, no
Kind and ain’t afraid to cry
Or treat his momma right
That’s right, that’s what I like.”

66. Declan McKenna, “Paracetamol”

What Do You Think About the Car? • Columbia • 2017

“…A boy, fifteen with a gun in his hand / And the people with no audience say should be hanged…” “Paracetamol” is arguably most moving song from What Do You Think About the Car?, the debut album by British singer/songwriter Declan McKenna.  Situational, numerous relevant topics are covered throughout the song, including suicide.

“…A girl, fifteen, with her head in a noose
Because she’s damned to live, well she’s damned to choose.”

The significance of the girl leads to the subject of love, which takes on a number of meanings contextually, including acceptance, embracement, and various relationships.  “Paracetamol” was influenced by the death of Leelah Alcorn, an Ohio transgender teen whose story affected the world.  This record is aimed at building respect and acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community.

Paracetamol itself is a pain reliever, and its role on the record can be interpreted multiple ways. What is crystal clear is that McKenna seeks to ease the pain of an unfairly marginalized, troubled community. “Paracetamol” has appeared on a numerous lists including Fill Your Prescription with These 11 Medicine Songs, Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming with PRIDE, and 13 P Songs Selected with No Rhyme or Reason.

67. Caleb De Casper, “Good Boy”

“Good Boy” • Caleb De Casper • 2017

“Tell me I’m the only one who can make you scream / When we’re lying underneath the sheets and you’re not being mean.” Caleb De Casper is a songwriter, performing/recording artist based in Austin, Texas who blends ‘horror cabaret’ and ‘full-band theatrical glam rock.’ For his colorful single “Good Boy”, De Casper has a clear set of objectives he wants the listeners to takeaway.  Among those objectives is the concept of the song. According to De Casper, “the lyrics tell the story of a fatal same-sex attraction.” Lyrically, he accomplishes his tale, with nuanced vocals to match.

The Fatal Attraction hits listeners early on in the first verse, as De Casper sings:

“Tell me I’m the only one, who can turn you on
Even though we always ride around with your feelings off.
Tell me I’m the only one who can light your fire
Even though the way that you act, leaves my matches tired.”

Killed it. That obsessiveness continues on the second verse, growing more intense and suggestive. He brings it all together on the chorus, which is infectious…in a somewhat creepy, sort of way!

“I can be your good boy (I can be your good boy)
You make me a bad boy (you make me a bad boy).”

“Good Boy” previously appeared on the playlists 15 Songs Where Guys Sing About Guys and 14 Songs That Are About Boys or Girls.

68. Frank Ocean, “Chanel”

“Chanel” • Blonded • 2017

“My guy pretty like a girl / And he got fight stories to tell / I see both sides like Chanel / See on both sides like Chanel.” From the start of “Chanel”, Frank Ocean keeps it real, referencing sexuality, specifically, bisexuality. Before releasing his breakthrough album, Channel Orange in 2012, Ocean revealed he was bisexual, a rarity in hip-hop music and culture.  Here, he is comfortable sharing his sexual preferences, likening it to Chanel.

There are more references to sex as well, particularly the male member (catch the drift?).

“Dick could roll the eyes back in the skull
Rolling when you ride, poppin’
Rolling when you ride
Ride the Rodman
Got one that’s straight acting
Turnt out like some dirty plastic.”

The most fascinating part of the aforementioned is the reference to roles in the gay community (‘straight acting’).  His boyfriend is gay, but publicly presents himself as a straight male.  In addition to his sexuality, Ocean also references cars and his career. “Chanel” is most powerful because it is personal, finding Ocean sharing his innermost thoughts and philosophies.

69. Kevin Abstract, “American Boyfriend”

American Boyfriend: A Suburban Love Story • QUESTION EVERYTHING, INC. / EMPIRE • 2016

“Burn bridges, American boyfriend / No one knows, no one calls home / American boyfriend.” Kevin Abstract is best known as a member of hip-hop collective, BROCKHAMPTON. That said, prior to the breakout success of the band (IRIDESCENCE), and even before the three SATURATION LPs, Abstract released a solo album, American Boyfriend: A Suburban Love Story, in 2016.  Also, worth noting, Abstract is out and proud, and doesn’t shy away from referencing his sexual orientation.  Fittingly, we include “American Boyfriend,” the title track, and 14^th overall track from American Boyfriend: A Suburban Love Story.

“American Boyfriend” definitely doesn’t sound like your stand urban contemporary record.  The sound of this slow jam is idiomatic of alternative R&B, incorporating elements of alternative rock. Safe to say, the record is very much a vibe.  Lyrically, Kevin Abstract keeps things simple, yet, there’s another level of complexity given the effect sexuality has on his career and life.  On the second verse, which references dying, Abstract asserts, “My parents wanna kill me, let them kill me / I’ll finally be on TV.” He never says it outright on this record, but clearly, it’s a reference to his parents’ disapproval of homosexuality. “American Boyfriend” previously appeared on the playlist 10 Alluring Boyfriend or Girlfriend Songs.

70-71. Tyler Glenn, “G.D.M.M.L. GRLS” & “Devil”

Excommunication • Island • 2016

“Gay’s not a challenge that I’ll overcome / Not a thing to be tolerated / If I kiss a boy, I’m gonna kiss, that cool? / Am I fucking up your day? Now that’s just rude…” “G.D.M.M.L. GRLS” (Excommunication, 2016) definitely sounds like something that Neon Trees frontman Tyler Glenn needed to get out of his system.  He gets personal about his sexuality and the hurdles associated with it. This heavily produced, intense record, showcases Glenn’s disillusionment with the Mormon church, who denounce homosexuality.

On the chorus, he asserts inability to change his sexual preference:

“I keep on hearing evil voices, voices
…They keep on messing with my choices, choices
… God didn’t give me alternative, no
When she put me on the earth
God didn’t make me like girls...”

Numerous churches and religions denounce homosexuality.  Many cite Biblical text as the source, with Sodom and Gomorrah leading the charge. Swap out Mormonism for various religions or communities, and homophobia occurs. His message resonates with numerous members of the LGBTQ+ community, and others.

“Sunday mornings make me nervous / They don’t feel like they used to feel / My religion feels wrong, but I can’t tell my mom / I’m afraid that my words would kill.” Yeah, Tyler was pretty pissed off on throughout Excommunication, which focused on his break with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.  Again, being disappointed by being unaccepted by the church as a gay man, he left.  Another instance of his newfound skepticism towards religion comes at the very end of Excommunication, “Devil.”

“I think I still believe in Jesus
He’s a friend when I choose to pray
But my demons get me high, ‘til I’m burning all the time
Yeah, they never wash my sins away.”

One never gets the impression that Glenn is an atheist now – there’s still something there. But, he has clearly lost faith: “I swear I still believe in something / But I couldn’t pray the gay away.”

72. Alicia Keys, “Where Do We Begin Now”

Here • RCA • 2016 

“How many know this love song? / How many times it goes wrong?” Unfortunately for Alicia Keys, her sixth LP, HERE, didn’t exactly ignite up the charts.  Nonetheless, the album has some compelling moments, including her socially-conscious “love is love” anthem, “Where Do We Begin Now.” Perhaps another socially-conscious gem, “Blended Family (What You Do for Love)” drew attention away from “Where Do We Begin Now,” which is clearly about a same-sex relationship.

“What they gon do ‘cause we the same sex?
And we spendin’ all this time
This could be the love we ain’t made yet…”

Keys goes on to place emphasis on the love that ultimately, “feels right”:

“I had a dream about you last night
Then it kinda blow my mind
All I really know is that it feels right
And I gotta live my life.”

73. Tegan and Sara, “Boyfriend”

Love You to Death • Warner • 2016

Twin sisters Tegan and Sara are both openly gay. On “Boyfriend” (Love You to Death, 2016), the duo is able to maneuver the heterosexual pop world, while making a notable statement in LGBTQ+ circles. “Boyfriend” seems cliché from the surface, built on platitudes that have been lyricized for years.  However, given the homosexuality of Tegan and Sara adds a deeper, more meaningful social message.

The messaging entails numerous scenarios encompassed within the LGBT community: relationship roles (best friend vs. boyfriend or girlfriend) and balancing the transition from hetero- to homosexuality. Hence, it explores closeted vs. being out of the closet.

“You treat me like your boyfriend
And trust me like a… like a very best friend
You kiss me like your boyfriend
You call me up like you want your best friend
You turn me on like you want your boyfriend
But I don’t want to be your secret anymore.”

Ultimately, “Boyfriend” paints a picture of unfairness within relationships.  One person is undecided on being “in” or “out,” toying with the feelings of person who’s “in” but being wronged.  Complicated!

74. Halsey, “New Americana”

Badlands • Astralwerks • 2015

“We are the new Americana / High on legal marijuana / Raised on Biggie and Nirvana / we are the new Americana.” On “New Americana” (Badlands, 2015), Halsey paints a portrait that doesn’t look like your parents’ America.  Beyond marijuana and gangsta rap, she tackles same-sex marriage, breaking stereotypes.

“Young James Dean, some say he looks just like his father
But he could never lover somebody’s daughter
Football team loved more than just the game
So he vowed to be his husband at the altar.”

A good-looking dude on the football team who is also gay and eventually marries a guy?  All part of “The new Americana.”  “New Americana” previously appeared on the playlists 15 Must-Hear, All-American Songs and 11 ‘New’ Songs That Will Tickle Your Fancy.

75. Steve Grand, “All-American Boy”

All American Boy • Grand Nation • 2015

A male country artist who is gay? Do those even exist? Yes, there are, and they have nothing to be ashamed of. In this case, the openly gay country musician we are referencing is the hunky Steve Grand. Grand did something that no mainstream country artist would dare do – he recorded a same-sex love song, “All-American Boy,” released in 2013. “All-American Boy” would eventually appear on his 2015 album, All-American Boy.

Love songs are commonplace in country music, where hunky male artists sing about wooing girls.  While Grand has the “hunky” part covered, the fact that the object of his affection is a male shocked the world at the time: “Ripped jeans, only drinks whiskey / I find him by the fire while his girl was getting frisky, oh / I say we go this road tonight…” All said and done, the one thing that truly separates “All-American Boy” from any other country love song is sexual preference. Few country songs address the LGBTQ+ community. Grand filled a gap and initiates the discussion.  He does a damn good job of doing so too.

“Be my all-American boy tonight
Where every day’s the fourth of July
And it’s alright, alright
And we can keep this up ‘til the morning light
And you can hold me deep in your eyes
It’s alright, alright
So be my, be my
My all-American boy.”

“All-American Boy” previously appeared on the playlists 15 Must-Hear, All-American Songs and 15 Songs Where Guys Sing About Guys.

76. Demi Lovato, “Cool for the Summer”

Confident • Hollywood / Island • 2015

“Tell me what you want / What you like / it’s okay / I’m a little curious too…I can keep a secret, can you?” Open-minded pop star Demi Lovato courted some controversy (for lack of a better word) with her hit single, “Cool for The Summer” (Confident, 2015). What makes the record bold are references to bi-curiousness and lesbianism, insinuated in the aforementioned lyrics.

The lustfulness is clear, with a reference to “cherry” fueling the same-sex tilt.

“Got my mind on your body and your body on my mind
Got a taste for the cherry, I just need to take a bite.”

The chorus continues the curiousness:

“Take me down into your paradise
Don’t be scared, cause I’m your body type
Just something that we wanna try
Cause you and I
We’re cool for the summer.”

“Cool for the Summer” brings light to the existence of a sexual spectrum that goes beyond being exclusively straight, exclusively gay, or bisexual.  Interestingly, there’s a Purple-Red Scale for determining sexuality.  Since it’s only “cool for the summer,” clearly Lovato considers this to be a fling as opposed to a serious relationship. Nonetheless, a sexually awakening experience.

“Cool for the Summer” previously appeared on several playlists: 13 Captivating Summer Songs, Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming With Pride and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

77 & 78. Troye Sivan, “BITE” & “Heaven”

Blue Neighbourhood • Capitol • 2015

“Don’t you wanna see a man up close? / A phoenix in the fire.” Troye Sivan delivered a gem with his debut album, Blue Neighbourhood. Blue Neighbourhood masterfully captures his experiences as a gay male coping with being different.  One of the most distinct records is “BITE,” which literally has a bite about it, sounding suspect. According to an interview with Pop Buzz, Sivan stated, “‘BITE’ is about my first time in a gay club.”

He goes on to describe the chaotic atmosphere, asserting he “wanted to capture the chaos”:

“… [I was] taken aback by the sticky floor, the shirtless men, and everything else.”

Lyrically, “BITE” grows progressively sketchier.

“The rapture in the dark puts me at ease
The blind eye of the storm
Let’s go for a walk down Easy street
Where you can be reborn.”

“BITE” is a statement about losing virginity in regard to a life experience. For Sivan, it marks a rite of passage in his life as a gay man – another part of his sexual awakening. It parallels a number of first experiences. In addition to appearing on 11 Songs Where Musicians Were Sexually Awakened, “BITE” also appeared on the playlist, 11 Captivating Songs About Firsts.

Moving on to “Heaven,” featuring Betty Who, it ranks among the deepest songs from Blue Neighbourhood.  It reeks of vulnerability, finding Sivan questioning his sexuality and salvation. “Without losing a piece of me / How do I get to heaven,” he sings on the chorus, continuing, “Without changing a part of me / How do I get to heaven?” Thematically, this is something of a grey area in music – how many songs have been written about this emotion or issue? It’s often discussed, but to be portrayed musically, it’s fresh and definitely piques both brain and heart. “Heaven” has previously appeared on the playlists 13 Songs Associated with Heaven and/or Paradise, 18 Songs About Angels & All Things Angelic, and 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

79. A Great Big World, “Hold Each Other”

Ft. Futuristic

When the Morning Comes • Epic • 2015

“Hold Each Other” (When the Morning Comes, 2015) isn’t the first foray into LGBTQ-related songs for A Great Big World.  On debut album Is There Anybody Out There? the pop duo dropped “Everyone Is Gay”. Although corny, the song came from a good place. “Hold Each Other” is more meaningful, particularly for Chad King, who is gay.

King embraces his sexuality on the second verse, fearlessly using the pronoun he.

“Everything looks different now
All this time my head was down
He came along and show me how to let go…
Something happens when I hold him
He keeps my heart from getting broken.”

Playing devil’s advocate, perhaps “Hold Each Other” makes a subtle statement.  BUT the statement is notable considering the few instances in pop references same-sex male relationships. “Hold Each Other” previously appeared on the playlist, 13 Songs Trying to Hold It Together.

80. Hozier, “Take Me to Church”

Hozier • Columbia • 2014

“Take Me to Church” was a no. 2 hit on the Billboard Hot 100 – a huge, breakthrough hit for Irish singer/songwriter Hozier. Furthermore, the standout from Hozier (2014) was nominated for the Grammy (Song of the Year).  Listening emptily, it’s easy to see why it was a massive hit.  Who doesn’t enjoy a song that references sex?  Considering the depth of its subject matter analytically, it’s almost unbelievable it achieved the commercial accolades it did.

In a NY Mag interview, The Irish singer/songwriter describes the song as being about sex, humanity, and disdain for the church “teaching shame about sexual orientation.”  The lyrics of the song confirm those strong feelings:

“My church offers no absolutes
She tells me ‘worship in the bedroom’
The only heaven I’ll be sent too
Is when I’m alone with you.”

Furthermore, in the interview, he tackles the influence of church in Ireland, and homophobia in Russia. Key lyrics, such as “We were born sick, you heard them say it,” confirms this.   Throughout its course, “Church” amplifies blasphemous references to make a statement.  Ultimately, that statement is that all humans, regardless of sexuality, should be able to love and be with whomever they’d like.

81. Sam Smith, “Lay Me Down”

In the Lonely Hour • Capitol • 2014

On In the Lonely Hour, Sam Smith dabbles in the plight called love, specifically unrequited love. Openly gay, they imply their sexuality throughout the album. Understanding their perspective, it fills in the blanks for the listener, revealing a larger significance. On “Lay Me Down,” Smith is particularly devastated.  Their love is gone, and they miss everything about him.

“Told me not to cry when you were gone
But the feeling’s overwhelming, it much too strong.”

They tug at the heartstrings on the chorus. It’s relatable to anybody who’s experienced heartbreak:

“Can I lay by your side, next to you, you?
And make sure you’re alright
I’ll take care of you
I don’t want to be here if I can’t be with you tonight.”

The music video amplifies the significance from the LGBTQ perspective.  Initially set as a funeral, it ends in a same-sex marriage at a London church.  The Church of England is notably divided about homosexuality.  The funeral scene seems to be symbolic – subject to interpretation.  Perhaps Smith lays their past to rest and embraces the present.  Perhaps it represents the death of the old guard and birth of the new – freedom to marry whoever.  Regardless, they make a statement which serves as a catalyst for conversation, debate, and discussion.

82. Against Me!, “True Trans Soul Rebel”

Transgender Dysphoria Blues • Total Treble • 2014

On “True Trans Soul Rebel,” a highlight from Transgender Dysphoria Blues, frontwoman Laura Jane Grace is frank about being transsexual.  This is best evidenced on the chorus: “Who’s gonna take you home tonight? / Who’s gonna take you home? / Does God bless your transsexual heart, true trans soul rebel?”

If the chorus of “True Trans Soul Rebel” wasn’t confessional enough, the bridge highlights Grace’s feelings of being ‘built wrong’ essentially:

“You should’ve been a mother
You should’ve been a wife
You should’ve been gone from here years ago
You should be living a different life.”

Heavy, yet rocking, “True Trans Soul Rebel” is nothing short of awesome.

83. Perfume Genius, “Queen”

Too Bright • Matador • 2014

“No family is safe / When I sashay.” Perfume Genius delivers quite the LGBTQ gem with “Queen,” the second track off his 2014 album, Too Bright.  Thematically, the lyrics encompass fierceness as well as false, often homophobic perceptions of the gay community.

On the first verse, Perfume Genius references AIDS and its perceived connection to the LGBTQ+ community, singing, “Don’t you know your queen? / Cracked, peeling / Riddle with disease / Don’t you know me?” On the second verse, he seems to reference Silence of the Lambs, ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’, and perceived negative gay influence.  Regardless if you’re a full-fledged member of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally, “Queen” is a must-hear.

84. Arcade Fire, “We Exist”

Reflektor • Arcade Fire • 2013

Much ado was made about “Reflektor”, the title track from the fourth studio LP by Arcade Fire. “We Exist,” however, features the more transcendent message.  According to the band, “We Exist” “is a reaction to [Jamaica’s] notoriously antigay culture”. It’s taken from the perspective a boy who realizes he’s different (gay).  He struggles with acceptance from the world and fears the reaction of his father.

“But we exist
Daddy it’s true
I’m different from you
But tell me why they treat me like this?
If you turned away
What would I say?
Not the first betrayed by a kiss.”

His father’s reaction seems supportive, giving his son sound advice:

“Maybe it’s true
They’re staring at you
When you walk in the room
Tell ‘em it’s fine
Stare if you like.”

The protagonist goes on to depict discrimination.  Still, he’s most concerned about losing his father’s support. While Jamaican homophobia is the inspiration, the scenario is unspecific ultimately.  Homophobia exists throughout the world; it’s a cruel, unfair reality within the LGBTQ community. The accompanying music video received plenty of criticism. Laura Jane Grace led the charge, criticizing Andrew Garfield for playing a transgendered person.

85. Kacey Musgraves, “Follow Your Arrow”

Same Trailer Different Park • Mercury • 2013

Country music is among the least tolerant musical genres in regard to the LGBTQ+ community.  Even so, neo-traditionalist country artist Kacey Musgraves gives a liberal, open-minded spill on “Follow Your Arrow.”  In effect, she embraces “YOLO”.  Before delivering a ‘bullet’ about sexuality, she opens the record brutally honest in reference to pre-marital sex.

The chorus grows more progressive:

“So, make lots of noise
Kiss lots of boys
Or kiss lots of girls if that’s something you’re into
When the straight and narrow gets a little too straight
Roll up a joint, or don’t
Just follow your arrow wherever it points…”

Unsurprisingly, it created a stir upon its release.  Regardless, Musgraves claims that her fan base has embraced it.  Apparently, the record wasn’t controversial initially, but expanded to include the bi-curious, lesbian reference.

86. Panic! At the Disco, “Boys/Boys/Girls”

Too Rare to Live, Too Young to Die • Fueled by Ramen • 2013

Brendon Urie and Panic! At the Disco delivered one of his most risqué singles of its career with “Girls/Girls/Boys.” The single, not to mention Urie’s revelation of sexual experimentation caused the media to incorrectly label him as bisexual; notably, he came out as pansexual in 2018. He’s definitely onboard with the freedom to be and of course do what you’d like.

“Girls/Girls/Boys” embraces bisexuality, from a girl’s perspective:

“And never did I think that I
Would be caught in the way you got me
But girls love girls and boys
And love is not a choice.”

Later on, Urie admits to interfering with his love interest’s preferences:

“I’m just a villain vying for attention from a girl
A girl who can’t decide
And here’s the reason why
Girls love girls and boys.”

While he proclaims himself as the villain in this case, he’s ultimately thinking bigger. Since “Girls/Girls/Boys” is bisexual anthem, he suggests those interfering with people choosing who to love – judgmental or otherwise – are the villains. “Girls/Girls/Boys” previous appeared on the playlists: Songs About Girls, Vol. 1, 14 Songs That Are About Boys or Girls, Totally Awesome LGBTQ+ Songs Beaming With Pride, and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

87. Sara Bareilles, “Brave”

The Blessed Unrest • Epic • 2013

“And since your history of silence / Won’t do you any good / Did you think it would? / Let your words be anything but empty / Why don’t you tell them the truth.” “Brave” (The Blessed Unrest) is among the most inspirational songs on this list.  It was specifically written about coming out.  It’s not about Sara Bareilles coming out, but a friend, according to The Huffington Post. Regardless, it’s an anthem applicable to any number of situations.

“Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly, I wanna see you be brave.” 

Beyond the aforementioned chorus, the verses yield their own fair share of uplifting, empowering lyrics of overcoming adversity:

“Everybody’s been there
Everybody’s been stared down by the enemy
Fallen for the fear
And done some disappearing…maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is.”

“Brave” previously appeared on playlists Totally Awesome LGBTQ Songs Beaming with Pride and 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

88. Frank Ocean, “Thinkin Bout You”

Channel Orange • Def Jam • 2012

Frank Ocean took a risk coming out as bisexual during the run of 2012 debut LP, Channel Orange.  The black community is a work in progress in regard to LGBTQ+ friendliness.  Ocean didn’t suffer in the least commercially. Channel Orange went on to be nominated for the Grammy for album of the year.  One of the reasons for its success was single “Thinkin Bout You.” “Thinkin Bout You” straddles a line.

Without knowledge of Ocean’s sexuality, the naïve listener won’t necessarily pick up any LGBTQ+ references.  Explicitly, there’s just one, and it’s relatively subtle:

“My eyes don’t shed tears, but boy, they pour when… I’m thinkin’ ‘bout you…do you think about me still?”

“Thinkin Bout You” is about being in love for the first time and for Frank Ocean, that experience occurred with a guy.

“Yes of course I remember, how could I forget how you feel?
You know you were my first time, a new feel…”

89. Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, “Same Love”

Ft. Mary Lambert

The Heist • Macklemore • 2012

Rap music isn’t the go-to for LGBTQ friendly music.  Arguably, hip-hop is less receptive than country music.  Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, with the help of gay singer/songwriter Mary Lambert, aimed to shift the perception with “Same Love.” Macklemore isn’t gay but supports the LGBTQ community wholeheartedly.

“For those that like the same sex had the characteristics
The right-wing conservatives think it’s a decision
And you can be cured with some treatment and religion
Man-made, rewiring of a predisposition, playing God.”

Throughout the song, he references the fears that folks have about same-sex relationships and how hip-hop is on the wrong-side of the issue.

“America the brave still fears what we don’t know
And ‘God loves all his children’ is somehow forgotten
But we paraphrase a book written thirty-five hundred years ago
I don’t know.”

Lambert locks down “Same Love” on the hook, specifically the lyric, “She keeps me warm.”  Interestingly, Lambert – who appears earlier on this list – has her own expansion of “Same Love,” “She Keeps Me Warm”.

90. Marsha Ambrosius, “Far Away”

Late Nights & Early Mornings • J • 2011

Lyrically, “Far Away” tackles suicide.  In the context of the song, there aren’t any direct references to homosexuality. What the listener takes away is that Marsha Ambrosius is heartbroken after her friend commits suicide.  As sad as the situation is, “Far Away” finds Ambrosius depicting her emotions in the aftermath. The accompanying music video takes things a step further, incorporating homosexuality and homophobia.

The homophobic component drives the male to commit suicide.

“If I had known Sunday morning, that you would be gone
I would’ve never come home
I wouldn’t have answered my phone to hear the voice had a tone
I knew that something was wrong
The cop’s the one who had told me that you were alone inside
An empty room
Identified you as my baby
Oh, my baby, so far away.”

What further amplifies the significance of the video is the use of black characters.  Homophobia is more pronounced in the black community, so Ambrosius took a bigger risk with “Far Away” given the storyline and social implications.  A Think Progress article (from February 2016) by Zack Ford suggests black homophobia is a myth, based on a Public Religion Research Institute survey.

91. Lady Gaga, “Born This Way”

Born This Way • Interscope • 2011

“I’m beautiful in my way / Cause God makes no mistakes / I’m on the right track, baby /I was born this way…” Years before Kesha was ‘true to self’ on “My Own Dance” (High Road), Lady Gaga spoke to all of the most unique individual of the world on “Born This Way,” the title track from her epic 2011 album. Gaga says it best at the top of “Born This Way”: “It doesn’t matter if you love him, or capital H-I-M / Just put your paws up / ‘Cause you were born this way.”

Ultimately, “Born This Way” is an anthem that celebrates every person being special, regardless of sexual preference or otherwise.  Really, is there much more that needs to be added to describe this surefire bop? This is one hell of a fierce record, years after it was first unveiled to the world.

“…Don’t hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you’re set
I’m on the right track baby
I was born this way.”

92. Rihanna, “Te Amo”

Rated R • Def Jam • 2009

The 2009 Rihanna album, Rated R, was indeed, rated R.  This was an important, transitional album in the R&B/pop artist’s discography.  Notably, the album followed the whole Chris Brown scandal.  Rihanna would return edgy, with music that embodied being risqué AF.  One of the kinder, gentler numbers from Rated R, “Te Amo,” would end up being progressive than some of the cuts that found Ri incorporating f-bombs.

“Te Amo” encompasses a ‘romantic encounter’ between two women.  There’s no relationship, nor do things ‘go all the way.’  Still, the particular woman desires to be ‘more than friends’ with Rihanna. “Te amo, te amo / She says to me / I hear the pain in her voice,” Rihanna sings on the first verse, continuing, “Then we danced underneath the candelabra / She takes the lead / That when I saw it in her eyes, it’s over.”  Rihanna makes her resistance to this potential relationship crystal clear on the chorus of this Latin-tinged, tropical pop gem:

“Then she said te amo
Then she put her hand around my waist
I told her, no
She cried te amo
I told her I’m not gonna run away
But let me go
My soul is awry
Without asking why
I said te amo
Wish somebody’d tell me what she said?
Don’t it mean, I love you?
Think it means, I love you
Don’t it mean, I love you?”

A terrific song, it captures a scenario that is quite easy to envision by all means.  Crushing on the same-sex, yet the crush doesn’t feel that way – definitely a realistic situation.  “Te Amo” previously appeared on the LGBTQ-themed music list, 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

93. Lady Gaga, “Poker Face”

The Fame • Interscope • 2008

“Love game intuition, play the cards with spades to start / And after he’s been hooked, I’ll play the one that’s on his heart.” Listening to “Poker Face” without context, or playing extremely close attention to the lyrics, it would seem that it’s a harmless, dance-pop record by Lady Gaga. Dance-pop often focuses on the production and vibe more so than the lyrics, so, Lady Gaga could easily get a bit of a pass given the infectious, killer vibes of “Poker Face.” Don’t let the infectiousness of this number one hit from The Fame Monster fool you.  Basically, you should totally ‘read into’ the chorus, which clearly insinuates bisexuality, confirmed by the musician herself.

There’s nothing wrong with that, but back when, how many caught what Gaga was actually singing about?

“Can’t read my, can’t read my
No, he can’t read my poker face
(She’s got me like nobody)
Can’t read my, can’t read my
No, he can’t read my poker face
(She’s got me like nobody).”

“Poker Face” previously appeared on the playlist 13 Songs That Focus on the Face and 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

94. Katy Perry, “I Kissed a Girl”

One of the Boys • Capitol • 2008

“That was never the way I planned / Not my intention / I got so brave, drink in hand / Lost my discretion…” Well, that’s very telling Katy Perry.  Of course, the opening lines from the first verse set up the 2008, bisexual anthem (rather, bi-curious), “I Kissed a Girl.”  Of course, the juiciest part of the verse is the second half, where Perry asserts, “Just wanna try you on / I’m curious for you…”

Does “I Kissed A Girl” have a transcendent message? Eh. A Huffington Post article sheds some light on this controversial, though extremely popular hit. Regardless of the controversy – the aforementioned “Both Ways” (Liam Payne) and “Girls” (Rita Ora) are also controversial – you could argue “I Kissed A Girl” broke barriers at the time.  Same-sex interactions wasn’t a popular topic for pop hits back in 2008.  And who didn’t “like it” at the time? By the way, the “cherry chap stick reference” was naughtier than anyone thought. “I Kissed a Girl” previously appeared on the playlist 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

95. Scissor Sisters, “Take Your Mama”

Scissor Sisters • Polydor • 2004

“Gonna take your mama out all night / Yeah, we’ll show her what it’s all about / We’ll get her jacked up on some cheap champagne / We’ll let the good times all roll out… / Because the dancers don’t mind at the New Orleans…” Scissor Sisters’ “Take Your Mama” is older than the rest of the songs on this playlist, hence a reason why it was excluded from the Totally Awesome LGBTQ Songs Beaming with Pride, which focused mostly on the most contemporary LGBTQ songs.  That said, this monumental debut single Jake Shears and company is a must-hear, period.

On “Take Your Mama,” Shears sings about being gay, having to pretend to be straight, and the effects it has on his mother. Keep in mind, back in 2004, pop music wasn’t nearly as progressive in regard to sexuality as it is now. Interestingly, in this anthem about coming out, Shears’ mama is being taken to a gay bathhouse/club on the hella catchy chorus.  Given the songs original appearance on the 15 Songs That Focus on Mama playlist, it feels appropriate to say, Happy Mother’s Day! It also appears on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

96. Franz Ferdinand, “Michael”

Franz Ferdinand • Domino • 2004

“So sexy, I’m sexy / So, come dance with me, Michael / I’m all that you see, you want to see / So, come and dance with me, Michael.” You know, when I think of Franz Ferdinand, bisexuality and homoerotic certainly don’t come to mind.  However, “Michael” has always stood out on their self-titled, 2004 album.  There’s quite the argument to be had.  Does “Michael” dip into a same-sex situation, or is it generally misinterpreted or misread? That is the question!

“Michael, you’re the boy with all the leather hips / Sticky hair, sticky hips, stubble on my sticky lips…” Wow – that’s hot stuff to say the least, Alex Kapranos!  Taken the lyrics literally, “Michael” has homoerotic thriller written all over it. “Beautiful boys on a beautiful dance floor,” he continues on the chorus, adding, “Michael, you’re dancing like a beautiful dance-whore.”

Sure, “Michael” isn’t extremely explicit, far paling in comparison to contemporary sexually charged music, but still, an early ode from male to male (2004) – it’s worth talking about, and still potent to this day.  “Michael” previously appeared on the playlist, 12 Interesting Songs That Reference Bisexuality.

97. Melissa Etheridge, “Come to My Window”

Yes I Am • Island Def Jam • 1993

“Come to my window / Crawl inside / Wait by the light of the moon / Come to my window / I’ll be home soon.”  Sometimes, lovers are forced to sneak around – their bond or relationship can’t be out in the open at that given time.  This happens with affairs obviously, but it can also occur with different types of relationships – non-heterosexual relationships… same-sex relationships. See where I’m going with this?

The phrase, “Come to my window” is obviously the key phrase from the Melissa Etheridge classic, “Come to my Window” from her 1993 album, Yes I Am.  The title, Yes I Am, served as affirmation of Etheridge’s sexuality as a lesbian. The song itself, is about a same-sex relationship, but keeps things simple without explicit details.  Honestly, it’s an awesome rock record that doesn’t need additional details.  With so much made of the titular lyric, arguably, the bridge of this Grammy-winning record solidifies the record’s spot on this ‘coming out’ playlist:

“I don’t care what they think
I don’t care what they say
What do they know about this love
Anyway.” 

“Come to My Window” previously appeared on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

98. Bronski Beat, “Smalltown Boy”

The Age of Consent • London Music Stream Ltd. • 1984 

“Mother will never understand why you had to leave / But the answers you seek will never be found at home / the love that you need will never be found at home.” Those lyrics from “Smalltown Boy,” a hit by English synth-pop trio Bronski Beat, are quite relatable, regardless of how one identifies sexually.  That said, Jimmy Somerville, Steve Bronski, and Larry Steinbachek definitely gave the LGBTQ population a voice decades before LGBTQ themes would truly thrive in popular music.  The five-minute classic appears as the sixth track on the band’s 1984 album, The Age of Consent.

“Run away, turn away, run away, turn away, run away.”  Ah, that gem of a chorus sounds like a total missed opportunity from 13 Songs That Feature Elements of Escapism.  The thing is, Somerville and company definitely have a legit reason to be running and turning away – the mistreatment and persecution of gays.  Essentially, the song speaks of not being able to live your truth.  “Pushed around and kicked around, always a lonely boy,” Somerville sings, continuing, “You were the one that they’d talk about around town as they put you down.” Later, he adds, “But you never cried to them, just to your soul,” before later discouraging the suppression, “Cry, boy, cry.” In this case, in order to ‘come out’ and live life freely, the ‘small-town boy’ must leave the small town. “Smalltown Boy” previously appeared on the playlist 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

99. Diana Ross, “I’m Coming Out”

Diana • Motown • 1980

Folks, let’s start this list off right: “I’m coming out / I want the world to know / I got to let it show.” Three words come to mind when the 1980 Diana Ross dance/disco/funk/pop/R&B classic “I’m Coming Out” is mentioned: ICONIC GAY ANTHEM.  The thing is, with the gem from Diana, you honestly don’t have to be a member of the LGBTQ+ community to appreciate the positive, uplifting vibes, not to mention the sheer funkiness of the record itself.  The big takeaway for anybody from this superb Bernard Edwards and Nile Rodgers co-write /co-production is exuding confidence without holding back or showing the least bit of fear.  This is all about being fearless – living unapologetically without suppression.

On the first verse, Diana Ross sums up the liberation perfectly:

“There’s a new me coming out
And I just had to live…
I think this time around
I am gonna do it…
The time has come for me
To break out of this shell
I have to shout
That I am coming out.”

Apparently, a visit to a gay club by Nile Rodgers inspired the song.  Also, Rodgers “fibbed a little to a skittish Ross” regarding the song.  Regardless, it’s no secret that Diana Ross had a sizable gay following.  Furthermore, whether one takes “I’m Coming Out” at its most literal, or more metaphorically, it is an incredibly positive song free of limitations.  “I’m Coming Out” previously appeared on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.

100. Sylvester, “You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)”

Step II • Concord Music Group • 1978

“Still your hot and you kiss me back and it / Feels real good and I know you love me / Like you should…” Those lyrics hail from the seminal disco classic, “You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)” by the late, great R&B artist, Sylvester.  Sylvester was known for his androgynous style, overall flamboyance, and of course, being an openly gay musician. Sadly, this talented man would die at the young age of 41 from AIDS.  That said, his legacy speaks for itself, specifically “You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real).”

Though less explicitly than other songs on this list, “You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)” embraces the door being ajar as closed – catch my drift.  Perhaps it is how open that Sylvester was regarding sexuality itself, or the quick tempo coupled with a magnificent beat and otherworldly synths.  Regardless, this iconic gay anthem feels like a ‘coming out’ party if there ever were one.  From the dancing on the first verse, to the sex that’s suggested on the second, it feels like a true embrace of being true to self romantically and sexually.  “You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)” previously appeared on the playlist, 19 Songs That Reference Coming Out.