Okay Kaya, Asexual Wellbeing | Wacky Wednesday

In the 34^th edition of Wacky Wednesday (2025), we break down the unique “Asexual Wellbeing,” performed by Okay Kaya.

Do you know what day it is? It is Wednesday, folks! Do you know what that means? Why, it is Wacky Wednesday! In the spirited column Wacky Wednesday, we analyze, break down, and explore songs from various musicians of various genres that can be considered unique, unusual, or ‘wacky.’  These songs can be new or old; the only requirement is that they ‘catch the ears’ because of their distinctiveness.  With the background established, in the 34^th edition of Wacky Wednesday (2025), we break down the unique “Asexual Wellbeing”, performed by Okay Kaya. Wacky Wednesday vibes commence!!

“Sometimes, I rub my ghost dick until I can almost see it.” Oh, snap! Now that’s a striking lyric, Okay Kaya (Kaya Wilkins)! Not only is it striking as an isolated lyric, but it is the first lyric the New Jersey-born, Norwegian singer/songwriter sings! It is one of many unforgettable lyrics from “Asexual Wellbeing”.  In the same verse, Wilkins references matters of the cerebrum, Van Leeuwen, and perhaps most memorably, “Netflix and yeast infection.” “Asexual Wellbeing” is the seventh track on her 2020 album, Watch This Liquid Pour Itself. Wilkins composed and produced this rare ace song.

From start to finish, Okay Kaya brings sickening vocals.  Her tone is rich and beautiful. Fueling her fire is stunning production. It is clean and organized, including alluring synth elements. As awesome as the backdrop is, it is the theme and lyrics, as well as tuneful melodies, that catch the ears the most. In the second verse, Wilkins asks, “If they can put a pulse into a spinach leaf / Can they turn the two of us into a tree?” Thought-provoking. Also, in the same verse, how about that vegan peanut butter chocolate ice cream? It’s interesting! But asexuality is what we came for! In the memorable chorus, she addresses the sex… mediocre sex… no sex…

“Sex with me is mediocre

But I can give you asexual wellbeing

Sex with me is mediocre

But I can probably feel what you’re feeling.”

Beyond being asexual (within this song), is she aromantic, too 🤔? Both fall within the A of LGBTQIA2S+.  She doesn’t appear to be aromantic. After all, via the outro, she sings, “I just want us to do well / Like Jon Bon Jovi’s rosé.” Now that’s love! “Asexual Wellbeing” is a one  of a kind alternative record.