13 Songs Where HIM is the Pronoun

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13 Songs Where HIM is the Pronoun features music courtesy of Azealia Banks, Durand Bernarr, Jude York, Queen Naija, Sam Smith, and The Winstons.

The Musical Hype has no shortage of posts about boys . Sigh, we those boys something fierce ! Ladies , no worries – you’re welcome too! That said girls , we will only be using one pronoun for this list: HIM. That’s right, all 13 songs on 13 Songs Where HIM is the Pronoun use the pronoun associated with males . Even so, the ladies provide plenty of assistance singing about – wait for it – HIM ! 13 Songs Where HIM is the Pronoun features music courtesy of Azealia Banks, Durand Bernarr, Jude York, Queen Naija, Sam Smith, and The Winstons among others. So, prepare to get into these hot, H-I-M songs! To quote Deniece Williams, “Let’s Hear It For the Boy”!

1. Jude York, All I See Is Him

“All I See Is Him” • Yoyo Music • 2023

“Everybody sees him as a million things / But all I see is him.” Sigh, how beautiful, Jude York. Furthermore, it is clear that this boy is special to the Australian pop artist. The expression and nuance that York sings with on “All I See Is Him” is fitting given his ode to this special individual. This boy is viewed as ‘many things’ by others. However, it is how special he is to Jude that matters. York perfectly paints a gay boy fantasy: “He’s every torso on the sand / He’s every daydream in slow motion that I’ve ever had.” Still, the moments that resonate the most are dedicated and sentimental. Perhaps it’s still partial fantasy, but the at end of the first verse, it sounds incredibly sweet when Jude sings, “And, as he drifts off in the ocean, he whispers my name.”

Bitmoji Image More colorful and realistic is the second verse, where the boyfriend’s flaws and idiosyncrasies endear him to York. “He’s like drunk dancing in the rain,” he sings at the end of the second verse, “‘Cause, when his laugh makes me dizzy, it heals all the pain.” Of course, it is the chorus that is the centerpiece, where #Relationship Goals arrive in all their glory:

“When he holds me

Wrapped in our bed sheets

Nobody else sees

But he’s got a piece of me

And he knows it

The way he juxtaposes

Everybody sees him as a million things

But all I see is him.”

Honestly, listening to “All I See Is Him” makes me want to find love – oh, the feels, the feels, the feels. Makes sense, given the fact that Jude York penned this as a gay wedding song. And, it doesn’t matter the type of feels – LOVE IS LOVE, BABY! Jude shines, once again!

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Jude York, All I See Is Him: LGBTQ Bopz 25 (2023)

2. Azealia Banks, “Fuck Him All Night”

“Fuck Him All Night” • Chaos & Glory Recordings • 2021

“I was fucking him all night / I fuck him all ways / And fucking him on sight, bitch.” Holy $hi†! Azealia Banks has never been shy – UNDERSTATEMENT! While her outspokenness has often eclipsed her music career, she has some great records, including the blunt, unapologetic “Fuck Him All Night”. Sex is the modus operandi, period! The one-liners are endless, beginning with, “Yeah, I’ve been fucking him all night / I’ve been taking raw dick since 11.” Oh shit! It doesn’t stop there because this guy has “Got me [her] lock jawed, dick deep in my mouth.”  Furthermore, over the sketchy, slinky beat, produced by Galcher Lustwerk, she asserts, “‘Cause we can slut, we can fuck, we can dig in the guts / And we can suck to the nut if you ready to bust.” Also, she throws in cunnilingus for good measure: “He got a crush on me now, I got him spending his bucks / He wanna touch on my body while his tongue in my cunt.” While it’s mostly X-rated sex, Banks does take the time to make it crystal clear she’s a ‘bad bitch’:

“All these bitches is zeroes, nil, nada, DeNiro

I’m high like Sharon Stone in Casino

I’m the don diva, all these bitches is small fries

When I come through, yes, all these bitches they gon’ hide.” 

Banks has always had a huge personality – bigger than life! That doesn’t fade in the least “Fuck Him All Night,” which is, fittingly, unapologetic. There’s sex, braggadocio, and terrific production work.

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3. The Winstons, “Color Him Father”

 Color Him Father •  Metromedia •  1969

“There’s a man at my house, he’s so big and strong / He goes to work each day, and he stays all day long.” That’s admirable.  Furthermore, “He comes home each night, looking tired and beat,” he never frowns, asking “How’s my child?” As these lyrics suggest,  The Winstons deliver a special record that highlights how special a loving, dedicated father is on  “Color Him Father” from their 1969 album of the same title. “I think I’ll color this man father / I think I’ll color him love.” The chorus is incredibly memorable and more importantly, thoughtful and touching.   Making “Color Him Father” even more thoughtful is the fact that we learn this man who is ‘colored’ father isn’t the biological father! See Exhibit B, the second verse: 

“Our real old man, he got killed in the war

And she knows she and seven kids couldn’t of gotten very far

She said she thought that she could never love again

And then there he stood with that big wide grin

He married my mother, and he took us in

And now we belong to the man with that big wide grin.”

Wow, the feels, the feels, the feels given off this top 10 (no. 7) Billboard Hot 100  hit. Also, deservedly, The Winstons were nominated for a  Grammy for Best R&B Performance by a Duo or Group.

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4. Demi Lovato, “Met Him Last Night” (Ft. Ariana Grande)

Dancing With The Devil… The Art of Starting Over • Island • 2021

“I’ve seen the devil, yeah, I met him last night / Had conversation, yeah, I think he’s alright.” The devil’s alright, Demi Lovato? To each his, her, or their own, I supposed. Lovato goes on to say on “Met Him Last Night” ( Dancing with the Devil…The Art of Starting Over), “I think I love him, though I know it ain’t right.” Of course, the devil is a guy, and as you might expect, they spend the night with each other. Anyways, in the context of Dancing with the Devil… The Art of Starting Over, Lovato follows up “Melon Cake” with another bop in “Met Him Last Night,” featuring Ariana Grande. This joint is set in the minor key, given it a darker sound. Demi and Ari make a great team – there was no way that we weren’t going to get high flying vocals with these two working together. I particularly love the way that they harmonize together throughout the record. I like the use of the 808s which gives this more of an urban-pop sound and feel. The best part is the chorus section (excerpted) which is on-point.

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5. Matt Fishel, “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him”

M/F • Young Lust • 2018

“He’s in my heart, he’s in my lungs / He’s in everything that I touch,” Matt Fishel sings on “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him” ( M/F, 2018), continuing, “And I don’t know if I’m his salvation / But he feels like a savior to me.” That’s infatuation to the nth degree. The rock singer/songwriter simply can’t stop thinking about this particular guy.  Throughout “I’m Totally Obsessed with Him,” he keeps his feelings .  In the first verse, Fishel asserts, “He wakes me up in a sweat on a Sunday morning / With the prettiest smile I think I’ve ever seen.” Later, in the same verse, he sings, “He’s just too beautiful to let out of my grip / That boy’s so damn perfect, all the other guys hate him.” Expectedly, given the ‘obsession’, in the second verse, Fishel is even more descriptive, taking fanboy to the next level.  “He’s got that chiseled jaw and cute freckles on both of his cheeks,” he sings, continuing, “How I ache when he’s dressed in that chest-hugging vest with his guns out.” Despite as thirsty as Fishel feels, he surprisingly doesn’t cross the line.

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6. The Exciters, “Tell Him”

Tell Him • Capitol • 2012

“If you want him to be / The very part of you / Make you want to breathe / Here’s the thing to do.” Clearly, The Exciters had to “Tell Him” things to win him over.  The things the group told us made us believe that their 1962 hit, which reached no. 4 on the pop charts, was the original version of the song. ACTUALLY, this gem, composed by  Bert Russell (real name Bert Berns), was originally penned as “Tell Her” and first recorded by Johnny Thunder (Gil Hamilton) in 1962. Before The Exciters would release the original, beloved version as “Tell Him,” Ed Townsend would record a second version of “Tell Her!”  Of course, it should come as no shock that the most popular version of “Tell Him,” which has been covered a lot, comes from The Exciters.     

“Tell Him” is incredibly fun, even six decades later.  There is an innocence and a vintage vibe that makes this tongue in cheek record such a gem.  The vocals are exuberant, as is the spirit of the song itself.  These girls want to secure the guy, so “Tell Him” provides a prescription of sorts. Is the prescription simplistic and dated? There is an argument for such, but still, there’s relevance: “Tell him that you’re never gonna leave him / Tell him that you’re always gonna love him / Tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him right now.” Woo! Still, we must remember, “Tell Him” was “Tell Her,” so arguably, the guy had to “Swallow his foolish pride” originally.  Regardless, “Tell Him” is a certified classic. 

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The Exciters, Tell Him: Covers No. 20 (2023)

7. Myylo, “Cut Him Off”

I Do (EP) • OK Be Nice • 2021

“Look babe, I know you’re sad / He’s the best damn dick that you ever had / But I don’t think you were such a match, okay.” Myylo continues to be the gift to the LGBTQ+ music community that keeps on giving on “Cut Him Off” ( I Do (EP) (2021)). Backed by Christian Fiore production, “Cut Him Off” is groovy, colorful, and well executed. Myylo is bold and unapologetic from the onset. as he makes it clear this guy was clearly “a fuck boy prodigy” – not worth the energy let alone heartache. Giving advice to a friend dejected by the loss of this no-good dude, Lewis makes it clear that it’s best to “cut him off.” We’re served up great vocals – boyish, bright, enthusiastic, and energetic. The lyrics are on-point, with gems like “I should know I’m the pot you’re the kettle / He’s a spork and that’s dumb utensil.” Myylo is just a total BOP!

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Awesome Songs: November 2020

8. Queen Naija & Ari Lennox, “Set Him Up”

missunderstood…still • Capitol • 2021

“We ‘bout to set him up, yeah, yeah.” Oh my – that poor guy! Actually, if you listen to the Queen Naija and Ari Lennox collaboration from start to finish, you won’t feel the least bit of sympathy for HIM – “He had it coming”! Why? Well, both Naija and Lennox have been dating and ultimately sleeping with him so, whatever comes of their set up on “Set Him Up” ( missunderstood…still – deluxe version), is deserved. Very much a duet, nearly every section of “Set Him Up” is collaborative. This allows both talented singers to develop tremendous chemistry. Both ladies share their ‘girl talk’ which involves the sexual skills of this certified male ho. “The nigga turned me out,” they sing on the first verse, continuing, “When he went down South, I had to change the sheets.” Woo! Of course, the discovery that they are sexing with the same man occurs on the second verse, with the plan being hatched to set him up on the bridge. The results work out quite well from both a narrative (songwriting) and vocal perspective. This is the perfect R&B soap opera. Add lush production by Pat McManus, Boston, and Mike Woods, and things are even better. “Set Him Up” gives both artists a surefire winner. We get sex, drama, and great vocals.

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9. Sam Smith, “HIM”

The Thrill of It All •  Capitol •  2017

Much of The Thrill It All sounds familiar in regard to Academy and Grammy Award winning singer/songwriter Sam Smith establishing a sound and vibe. “HIM” maintains that familiarity, but also exhibits a ‘different look.’ That different look goes beyond the high-flying, robust choral vocals backing them. Smith is both spiritual, praying to God, and opens up about their sexuality. “Holy father, we need to talk / I have a secret that I can’t keep,” they sing, continuing, “I’m not the boy that you thought you wanted / Please don’t get angry, have faith in me.” The message goes beyond Smith’s own sexuality at the time (they then identified as gay); it’s all encompassing. This is crystal clear on the chorus: “Don’t you try and tell me that God doesn’t care for us / It is him I love; it is him I love.”

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10. Ms. Lauryn Hill, “Tell Him”

The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill • Ruffhouse • 1998

“Let me be patient, let me be kind / Make me unselfish without being blind.” Sometimes, it takes only one album to leave your mark – cements your legacy. For Grammy winner Lauryn Hill, that was the case with her 1998 tour de force, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, one of the best albums, regardless of genre, ever recorded. On “Tell Him”, the soulful closer, doesn’t draw the most attention, but it’s a fine contribution to a then-thriving neo-soul movement. The production (Hill) keeps things simple, anchored by a dusty drum groove, robust bassline, and guitar. Also, sweetening the production are backing vocals, accentuating Hill’s sweet lead. Hill’s focus seems to be a mix of matters of the heart and spirituality, with the latter seeming most likely (“Now I may have faith (I may have faith) to make mountains fall / But if I lack love, then I am nothin’ at all.”). Regardless, the common thread is LOVE! Perhaps “Tell Him” doesn’t hit the same as “Ex-Factor”, but it’s another high-flying, surefire brilliant musical moment.

“Tell him, I need him

Tell him I love him

And it’ll be alright.”

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Lauryn Hill, Tell Him: Throwback Vibez 24 (2022)

11. Durand Bernarr, “H.I.M.”

Dur& • DSING • 2020

“Minding his own business, chilling in the dark / Warm and soft like kittens / He is where I started my journey intimately.” Hmm , I wonder what this song, “H.I.M.”, is about? It appears as the seventh track on Dur&, the 2020 album by R&B singer/songwriter, Durand Bernarr. Bernarr wrote “H.I.M.,” ultimately producing it alongside Sam Hoffman. It’s worth noting, that Bernarr verified the lyrics on Genius, giving insight on this brief but ear-catching record. Of the lines excerpted, Bernarr references his… penis. Yup. The last line should give it away .

The dick references don’t end there. Bernarr poetically laments his circumcision when he sings, “Mom and daddy got him a fade at such a young age / The rage, they took his choice away.” Furthermore, flaccidity enters the fray: “There is no blood down south / And A/C is on, ‘Oh wow’.” WOO! Eventually, Durand is explicit about HIM – well – his dick, to be fair: “Nothin’ but the truth up in this bitch / The most natural state of my dick (Dick), flaccid, real shit / This is it.” Damn… that’s deep… . Very TMI, simultaneously, the lyrics are clever. Bernarr provides some commentary regarding the chorus, which, in summation, involves not being pressed to impress with his manhood at his age. Honestly, it’s a noteworthy assertion. Bernarr performs “H.I.M.” well. Maybe it’s not sexy in a traditional sense, anytime a schlong is involved, well, that Midnight Heat comes into play.

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Durand Bernarr, H.I.M.: Midnight Heat 55 (2023)

12. BROCKHAMPTON, “Something About Him”

iridescence • QUESTION EVERYTHING / RCA • 2018

“There’s something about him / His car ain’t nice and flashy (Yeah, yeah) / There’s something about him / Yeah, his attitude is like magic.” On “Something About Him,” the fourth track from the 2018, BROCKHAMPTON album, iridescence, Kevin Abstract pays ode to his man. The chorus vocals are filled with vocal effects intentionally. Notably, Abstract provides more ‘standard’ vocals during his verse?…refrain”… whatever the section is best characterized as. “I really like how you do all the things that you do / I really like how you say all the things that you say,” he sings, concluding the section with an expletive: “Boy, don’t you know I fucking got you? Right, right.” Clearly, Kevin’s boyfriend is special, even if this ode only runs a minute-and-a-half in duration.

13. Marvin Sapp, “Praise Him In Advance”

Thirsty • Sony Music Entertainment • 2007

“Come on lets praise Him in advance.” Say what, Marvin Sapp? Praise Him, aka God, before moving in our favor? Now that requires faith! Notably, “Praise Him in Advance” is one of many gems from Sapp’s ultra-successful, 2007 album, Thirsty. “Praise Him in Advance” delivers those good, uplifting, faithful vibes – I can feel it in my biceps ! Sapp acknowledges the adversity and hardships. The first lines uttered are, “I’ve had my share of ups and downs / Times when there was no one around…” Of course, that’s when the big man upstairs – The Great I Am – comes into the picture! “GOD came and spoke these words wot me / Praise will confuse the enemy.” Think about that statement, and it’s % true. In hard times, praise is the opposite of what many of us think to do. We may pray, or, we may curse God and question him. Praising him, though, in this context? That is truly boldness!

In the chorus, Marvin does just that – praises him in advance:

“I started singing, I started clapping

I started dancing, people were laughing

They knew my problems, they knew my pain

But I knew God would take them away.”

That is a powerful message. Further confirmation comes as the praise is justified: “He’s given me a second a chance / Come on lets praise him in advance.” The spirit is lit on “Praise Him in Advance” where the pastor gives us an excellent word on this Deon Kipping penned gem.

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Marvin Sapp, Praise Him in Advance: Music Lifts 38 (2023)

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Published by the musical hype on July 12, 2023July 12, 2023